68. Is your brain a bit of a drama queen?

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In this episode I'm talking about the dramatic stories and thoughts our brains love to tell us - and why believing them isn't always useful...
AND I'm offering you a simple technique to snap your brain out of any intense, scary, or painful story - so that you can start to see things through a more helpful lens.
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Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

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137. The rejection & reassurance cycle 22:58

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Do you often find yourself feeling disconnected in your relationships - having unnecessary arguments that seem repetitive? Or do you feel like you’re on a rollercoaster - feeling great one minute and anxious the next - like your brain is just always on the look out for what’s ‘wrong’? If so - you’re likely stuck in one of the two cycles I’m discussing today: The rejection cycle and the reassurance cycle. Listen to find out the common signs, why our brain’s get stuck here, and how to break the pattern. Mentioned in the episode: Processing emotions meditation Join The MYRMD Society…

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136. The MYRMD Society is OPEN! (And I'm talking to past clients about their coaching journeys) 44:45

12 днів тому44:45

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Today The Master Your Relationship Mind Drama Society is officially OPEN! For just £99 a month - you can get weekly live coaching, monthly masterclasses, access to my digital course content, AND a community hub to get written support and cheer on other society members. And in today's episode, I'm chatting with two members of my previous rounds of group coaching. Listen to hear about their personal struggles and experiences - and to learn how these tools & concepts have transformed their relationships. SIGN UP TO THE MYRMD SOCIETY Find out more details (& read FAQs) Email me with a question - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com…

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135. Healthy boundaries vs control attempts 29:53

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Do you ever wonder what the difference is between a healthy boundary and a control attempt coming from a place of insecurity? If so - this episode is for you. We're going to cover: The difference between a healthy boundary and a power struggle The key ingredients that go into setting a healthy boundary Some examples of real life situations showing the difference between a healthy boundary & a control attempt (situations you will likely relate to) How to manage your own mind first so you know you’re approaching the boundary as your most secure self How to communicate a boundary in a way that creates opportunities for connection And the fear of rejection that we can often feel when we want to express a boundary - and how to overcome it. Ready? Let’s dive in! Mentioned in the episode: SIGN UP TO MY FREE 5 DAY CHALLENGE Find out about my new membership - The MYRMD Society…

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134. Creating secure responses to avoidant behaviour 29:06

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Do you have a partner or friend that exhibits some of the signs of an avoidant attachment style? And do you find your own anxiety being triggered by their behaviour - resulting in a push-pull cycle - where both people feel frustrated and disconnected? You're certainly not alone with this. And in today's episode, I'm teaching you how to manage your OWN mind and create a secure response to avoidant behaviour. So that you can feel calm and grounded, regardless of what's going on for them - and actually create more connection. Mentioned in this episode: SIGN UP TO THE 5 DAY CHALLENGE Processing emotions meditation Self Esteem Building Kit Email me about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com…

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133. The most important relationship you'll ever have is with YOU 31:23

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We all talk a lot about self-love and being compassionate to ourselves. But what does that actually mean or look like? In hundreds of coaching sessions - I've seen the many ways we can reject and disconnect from ourselves. And the impact that has on our lives & relationships. And in today's episode, I'm going to share some questions to help you do an audit of your own relationship with YOU. AND I'm going to offer you 3 exercises to help you improve it. Mentioned in the episode: Contact me about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com Self Esteem Building Kit…

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132. How to turn any trigger into an opportunity for growth 27:04

6 weeks тому27:04

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So many of us spend our lives trying to avoid being triggered. We blame other people for triggering us. We try and convince people to change their behaviour so we can be less triggered. But what if instead you could change the way you respond to your triggers... And turn them into opportunities to understand your thought patterns on a deeper level. In today's episode - I'm going to teach you steps to turn any trigger into an opportunity for growth. Mentioned in the episode: Processing emotions meditation Email me: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com…

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131. Most common limiting beliefs in relationships (Part 2) 24:50

7 weeks тому24:50

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This week, I'm continuing on from last week's episode on the most common limiting beliefs I see coming up in my client sessions! I'll be discussing the following thought patterns, how they impact our relationships, and how to challenge them! Including: Believing your worth is dependent on the way you look Gauging how much someone cares about you by how they follow your manual Needing to be perfect to be lovable Doing something bad = Being bad AND MORE!…

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130. Most common limiting beliefs in relationships (Part 1) 34:40

8 weeks тому34:40

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In today's episode, I'm discussing some of the most common beliefs I see coming up time and time again for my clients. And the impact they have on our relationships. Including: Believing you cause other people's emotions Making rejection mean something about YOU Believing you have to be a certain way / have a certain quality to be lovable AND MORE! PS. There were be a part 2 next week! <3 Mentioned in the episode: Self Esteem Building Kit Join my email list Email me - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com…

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129. Perfectionism and black & white thinking in relationships 23:05

9 weeks тому23:05

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Does your brain have a very all-or-nothing way of looking at yourself and your relationships? You either did it perfectly or you're terrible. You're a good friend or a bad friend. Your partner either says the exact right thing or they must not care about you at all. If so - you're not alone! Our brains are actually predisposed to be very black & white in the way they think - preferring things to fit neatly into set categories - leaving very little room for nuance or shades of grey. In today's episode I'm covering: A recent example of my own perfectionist brain How black & white thinking impacts our relationship with ourselves How it impacts our relationships with others How it can mess with our expectations and overall enjoyment of a relationship And some easy thought work hacks to take your brain to a more nuanced place! Mentioned in the episode Email me about coaching opportunities: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com…

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128. Relationship doubts - Am I in the ‘right’ relationship & fear of choosing 'wrong' 28:36

10 weeks тому28:36

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In today's episode, I'm talking about relationships doubts and anxiety - something which is often referred to as ROCD (Relationship OCD). For many of my clients, they're in relationships with loving partners & they don't want to break up with them - BUT their brains will not let them relax. They find themselves constantly questioning 'Am I in the right relationship?' and overthinking and nit-picking everything their partner says and does. If you can relate, here's what I'm covering today: Why asking 'Am I in the 'right' relationship'? is the wrong question The myth of 'The One' The unreasonable relationship expectations that may be f*cking with you How to discover what your brain is trying to keep you safe from A process to guide yourself through a moment of doubt AND how to change the way you think about your partner's flaws Mentioned in the episode: Contact Rebecca about coaching: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com Join my email list…

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127. Lying in relationships - Why do we lie? And is it ever okay? 25:14

11 weeks тому25:14

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When we're not honest with the people in our lives - we can create so much harm and disconnection. And yet... sometimes humans lie! In today's episode, I'm discussing: Why humans lie The act of self-preservation Bringing curiosity to situations - instead of black & white thinking How to handle conversations around lying And the fear of being lied to Ready? Mentioned in the episode: Spring 5 week 1:1 coaching package - email: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com…

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126. The reality of changing your brain 25:16

12 weeks тому25:16

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Do you often find yourself thinking: 'Why am I still thinking this?!' 'What's wrong with me!' 'I shouldn't STILL feel this way...' Maybe you've done the work of challenging your unhelpful thoughts, but find them still popping up and ruining your day? If you're feeling disheartened and frustrated with your brain right now - this episode is for YOU. I'm going to be covering: Why changing the way you think isn't quick and easy The unfair expectations we have of ourselves and our brains The montage fallacy - and how it messes with our ideas of growth and personal development What the reality of changing your brain actually looks like My own journey with changing the way my brain thinks AND why changing your relationship to your brain is THE most important thing you can do Mentioned in the episode: Self Esteem Building Kit Processing Emotions Meditation Get on my email list…

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125. Listener Q&A (Feeling guilt, missing a 'sign', busy partners, partner w/ female friends - AND MORE) 34:48

13 weeks тому34:48

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In today's episode - I'm answering questions written in by some of you lovely listeners. We're going to cover a wide range of topics, including: Feeling guilt for things like finding other people attractive Should I tell my partner about the work I'm doing on myself? The fear of missing a sign that you're being cheated on Feeling like you attract busy partners - and how to get your needs met How to catch yourself before you project your insecurities Dealing with a partner with female friends NOTE - Just because these things may not directly describe what you're struggling with, that doesn't mean the coaching won't still apply to YOUR brain. No one is going to be in your exact situation - but the fears, thought errors, and behavioural patterns will be surprisingly similar! Mentioned in the episode: Join my email list!…

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124. Dealing with jealousy in relationships 30:27

14 weeks тому30:27

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Do you often feel jealous in your relationships? Maybe your partner mentions a new co-worker, or a friend you're a little insecure about, or maybe you get that pit in your stomach when your best friend mentions one of their other friends... Jealousy is a normal human emotion. But it can cause so much havoc when left unchecked. In this episode we're talking about: What jealousy is Having compassion for our jealous brains Types of jealousy The biggest lies jealousy tells us How to coach your brain out of moments of jealousy AND how to deal with situations where a boundary might be being violated by your partner Mentioned in the episode: Processing Emotions Meditation Join my email list…

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123. How to stop feeling controlled by your anxious brain 24:00

15 weeks тому24:00

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This episode is for anyone that's tired of feeling like a slave to their anxious brain. One of the biggest shifts for me was changing my relationship to my anxious thoughts. Most of us take our thoughts verrrrry seriously. We think the fact our brain is saying something to us MUST mean it's true. We place a lot of importance on the thoughts in our brain - and then end up ruminating, spiralling, and acting in ways we really don't love. In today's episode, I'm talking about: Why we have such unhelpful thoughts Why understanding the purpose of these thoughts is powerful And I'm sharing practical tools for shifting into the observer of the thoughts - instead of feeling at the mercy of them Mentioned in the episode: How to handle 'What if...' thoughts Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet I HAVE 1:1 COACHING SPOTS AVAILABLE. Email: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com…

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122. What are your values? (in and out of your relationship) 27:00

16 weeks тому27:00

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In today's episode, I'm talking about how knowing our core values can help guide us in and out of our relationships. We'll be covering: What values are How yours and your partner's values may differ Whether that's a problem And how to let your values guide you when making decisions Mentioned in the episode: James Clear's list of values Sign up to my email list Contact me: rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com…

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121. Navigating the challenges of a partner's addiction - Interview with Mariah Kay 45:29

17 weeks тому45:29

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In today's episode, I'm interviewing one of my past clients and amazing friends - Mariah Kay. Mariah speaks openly about her journey navigating her husband's alcohol addiction and talks about how you can help your partner in their recovery. Mariah now coaches women facing the same struggles. Find her at @myhusbandsaddiction Check out her website: https://www.mariahkaycoaching.com/…

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120. Listener Q&A (Fear of falling out of love, when to break up, and MORE) 22:43

18 weeks тому22:43

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As promised - in today's episode I'm answering 6 questions from listeners on a variety of topics. Including: The fear of falling out of love with your partner When to end a relationship / when to try again Comparing yourself (and your life) to others Jealousy over your partner's success What to do when you're triggered Mentioned in the episode: Processing emotions meditation…

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119. Trust in the digital age 23:02

19 weeks тому23:02

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Do you feel terrified about what your partner may or may not be doing online... Here's a snippet from a question I received from a listener: "My question is about trusting someone in the digital age. It feels like more and more our devices are built for hiding things. Every social media app now seems to have a vanishing mode for deleting conversations, and every new version of an operating system offers additional “privacy” features. For someone working hard to heal their anxious attachment tendencies—including hyper vigilance—it feels exhausting! Like trouble could be lurking in every (digital) corner." Can you relate? In today's episode, I'm talking all about trust in the digital age. And covering: Is it easier to lie and hide things nowadays? What we're actually afraid of The beliefs that often fuel our fears Should you be checking their phone? AND setting boundaries around online behaviour…

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118. Turning relationship fears into courage 21:38

20 weeks тому21:38

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Anyone who has ever felt anxiety in their relationships will know what it's like to feel constantly afraid. To fear what other people might be thinking of us... To fear what our partners or friends might do... To fear having to start again... To fear being alone... But I believe the antidote to fear is courage. And so in today's episode, I'm talking about: What courage is What loving without fear can create What loving courageously looks like And how to cultivate more courage in your relationships Ready? LISTEN NOW. Mentioned in this episode: Processing emotions meditation MYRMD - 12 week group coaching programme Email me: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com…

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117. The 4 types of responses we can get when we make a request (and how to handle each) 25:12

21 weeks тому25:12

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Ever make requests of your partner (or friend / family member) and maybe they agree to do it... but they don't really do it the way you hoped? Maybe you ask them to plan more romantic date nights - and they do for a week or so - but then they go back to their old pattern of behaviour? Or perhaps you're struggling with knowing when to compromise in your relationship - wondering if you and your partner are just too different? In today's episode I'm exploring: How there are really only 4 responses we can get to any request we make How to spot which response you're getting How to navigate each one and determine what's a dealbreaker Mentioned in the episode: SIGN UP TO MASTER YOUR RELATIONSHIP MIND DRAMA Email me - Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com…

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116. Stop letting your story about the past ruin your relationships 24:38

22 weeks тому24:38

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Our brains are always constructing a narrative. We make meanings out of the things that have happened in our pasts, and then these stories shape and distort the way we think about situations in our present and what we create for our futures. But did you know that you could rewrite your entire past, simply by changing the way you think about it? Have you been cheated on... Broken up with... Made a big mistake... Struggled in dating... These events could be long gone but the story you tell yourself about them could be shaping your reality today. Tune in to learn why rewriting the story you tell about the past is important and how to get started today! Mentioned in the episode: Sign up for the Breaking Free of Codependent Thinking masterclass Find out more about my 12-week group coaching programme Win a £100 Amazon voucher & provide some feedback!…

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115. Dealing with unmet expectations 23:10

23 weeks тому23:10

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Do you feel a little frustrated, disappointed or let down by some of the people in your life right now? Maybe you had expectations of how certain relatives or loved ones would behave over Christmas, and they didn't quite hit the mark... It's easy for us to slip into victim mode in these moments, and mentally give all power over our emotions to the imperfect humans in our lives. But in this episode - I'm going to teach you how to take back control, think intentionally, and handle unmet expectations. Ready? Mentioned in this episode: 12 week group coaching programme details and waitlist Email Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com…

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114. Boundaries and regressing around family (Holiday special) 11:10

24 weeks тому11:10

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Feeling dread as Christmas approaches? Worrying about spending time with family members and feeling triggered? Have you done a lot of work on yourself this year, and fear that it may all fly out the window as soon as you're around your parents, neighbours, or distant relatives? If so... I've got you! This is the reminder we ALL need this time of year. Mentioned in this episode: Group coaching details…

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113. If it's not my partner's job to 'make me feel good', what's the point of relationships? (BLAST FROM THE PAST) 17:53

25 weeks тому17:53

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This week, I'm resharing one of my older episodes which answers a really common question I get when I teach people that their partners don't create their feelings. People ask me: 'But if my partner isn't creating my emotions for me, and their job isn't to 'make me feel good' - then what's the point of relationships?!' If your brain has offered a similar question... This episode is for YOU!…

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112. Our obsession with ‘red flags’ (and why it’s unhelpful) 23:46

26 weeks тому23:46

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Do you see posts on Instagram about red flags and instantly feel the pit of anxiety in your stomach? Are you often worried about missing the signs that your partner isn't trustworthy? And have you beaten yourself up in the past for 'not seeing it coming' and felt embarrassed, stupid, and naïve? If so - this episode is for YOU. I'm offering an opposing opinion on red flags and talking about why our obsession with them isn't actually helpful. Listen to find out: Why the idea of red flags fuels anxiety What we're really most afraid of How self-certainty can be created, even in the uncertainty of relationships Mentioned in the episode: Processing emotions meditation Group coaching programme…

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111. Breaking the pattern (navigating reoccurring issues) 23:41

27 weeks тому23:41

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Do you and your partner often have the same fight over and over? Or is there an issue you have with a friend that has been happening for a while now - and you just can't seem to break the cycle? Do you find yourself having the same reaction - and then them having their usual reaction... And then suddenly you're in the same fight you've had many times before? If so - it's time to break the cycle. And this episode will help you do just that! Mentioned in the episode: Info on 1:1 coaching - email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com Link to group coaching info - Master Your Relationship Mind Drama…

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110. Codependent thinking 22:13

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We can all be a little codependent sometimes. We're all humans with human brains after all! But sometimes codependent ways of thinking can take on a life of their own - and create a lot of anxiety, fear, and resentment in relationships. Do you feel like your mood can be ruined by the mood of the people around you? Do you instantly feel anxious if you think someone is mad at you? Do you often blame other people for how you're feeling or for the choices you're making? If so, this episode is for YOU! In today's episode - I'm sharing some examples of codependent thinking and revealing the thought errors driving them. Mentioned in the episode: Find out more about 1:1 coaching by emailing rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com…

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109. What NOT to do when you're anxious 18:27

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When we're feeling anxious, there are certain things that are going to help us... And certain things that aren't... In today's episode, I'm talking about the things that DO NOT help you when you're feeling anxious and what to do instead. Mentioned in the episode: Next round of my group coaching programme - DETAILS…

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108. Why we worry and how to stop - a conversation with Emilie Leyes 52:12

30 weeks тому52:12