23. Masculinity ft. Lance Gee & Eric Wu (Off the Wok)

Shit We Don't Tell Mom

2 Asian men get vulnerable with us and share their fears, shames, and insecurities. Lance Gee and Eric Wu from over at Off The Wok discuss losing a job, feeling suicidal, de-sexualization of Asian men, and starting all over from failures. Check out this hilarious episode that takes a turn for a deep dive into the Asian male psyche as Lance and Eric get super vulnerable with us. Content warning: suicide

Highlights:

• Going back to school and restarting a career with a family
• Eric’s fear of water (what?) but he takes showers every day
• Losing your job as the “man” of the family
• Asian male representation in media
• Lance and Eric overcoming the lowest points of their lives

Takeaways:

• The shame comes from comparisons and it ruins us
• Our judgements of others are projections of our own insecurities
• People don’t give a crap, so give a crap about yourself
• Provide non-judgmental support and a safe space for the men in your life
• Everyone’s low point is different but they are all painful and valid

Resources:

• Off The Wok (Podcast)
• Off The Wok (Instagram)
• Why I’m Done Trying to Be “Man Enough” (Ted Talk)
• Crisis Centre Helpline (Canada)
• Suicide Prevention Lifeline (USA)

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