21. Managing Expectations as an Asian Millennial ft. Natalie Cheung (Yellow Bee Pod)

Shit We Don't Tell Mom

Natalie from Yellow Bee Pod joins us to share her experience transitioning out of her civil engineering job to an outspoken supporter of Asian identity and women in STEM. We talk about what our parents’ expectations of us are growing up, our own expectations of what our life will look like, and how those expectations have changed as we approach milestones in our adulthood.

Highlights:

• Natalie kept her new job secret for six months before telling her mom
• Keeping your career plans to yourselves because it's easier than explaining it to your immigrant parents
• What we thought being an adult would be like versus what it’s actually like
• What emigrating was like for our moms when they were young
• We open up a safe space to discuss what we know and what we should know about Asian incels

Takeaways:

• Turning away from the expectations of your parents can happen at any time in your life
• Our parents never had a open-communication relationship with their parents, so it’s up to us to initiate that as our generation’s contribution
• Good grades, good university, and good job does not always equal happily ever after
• Our immigrant parents craved stability but did not have it and now they want that stability for us
• Median warps representation of all groups, whether it’s religion, incels, or our own communities

Resources:

• Natalie's Yellow Bee Pod
• Yellow Bee Pod (Instagram)
• Rice to Meet You Pod with Evelyn Mok and Nigel Ng (Instagram)
• Never Have I Ever (Netflix)
• To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before
• Asian America: The Ken Fong Podcast

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