353: Behind The Sessions: Venting About How Moms Are Treated

Mom and Mind

We would all love to only associate positive things with pregnancy, birth, and postpartum, but that’s just not everyone’s experience. Unfortunately, many people have negative emotions, triggers, traumas, and heartbreak around these major life events. I get mad on behalf of parents, especially mothers, during the perinatal time because of the real injustices many parents face. So many of these could be prevented if people were trained properly with awareness and compassion. I’m doing a bit of polite yelling in today’s soapbox edition of the podcast. Join me!

Show Highlights:

• Responses I’ve gotten on my Facebook page about how parents are treated and the pressures put on them
• Comments to an expectant mom about her pregnancy tend to run between two extremes
• The transition to motherhood is NOT the same for everyone! We should be more thoughtful.
• The ridiculous question immediately after a first child is born: “When are you going to have another one?”
• Unfeeling comments to a mother after a traumatic birth or pregnancy loss
• Insensitive and shaming comments about medications during pregnancy and while breastfeeding
• People, especially older mothers of a certain age, make disparaging comments about new mothers who use a birth doula.
• Women should NOT have to fight for the right to give birth exactly as they choose. (Medical providers do not have the right to force a procedure on someone else’s body.)
• A doula is an advocate who can speak for you and help you make an informed decision in a hectic delivery room.
• NO ONE has the right to tell you what you’re feeling is wrong or that you should change your opinion about your perinatal experience.

Resources:

Please find resources in English and Spanish at Postpartum Support International, or by phone/text at 1-800-944-4773. There are many free resources, like online support groups, peer mentors, a specialist provider directory, and perinatal mental health training for therapists, physicians, nurses, doulas, and anyone who wants to be a better support in offering services.

You can also follow PSI on social media: Instagram, Facebook, and most other platforms

Visit www.postpartum.net/professionals/certificate-trainings/ for information on the grief course.

Visit my website, www.wellmindperinatal.com, for more information, resources, and courses you can take today!