How to Stop Arguing with Your Kids

Get Yourself Together, Chica

This episode offers tips and ideas for how to stop arguing with your kids. (Disclaimer: For some kids (and some parents?), this episode might better be titled, how to argue less with your kids.)
No two kids are the alike; they come in different flavors, each with their unique traits. Some are more oppositional, sensitive, or defensive. As parents, we can't change that. However, we can work with their individualities and learn to shift our own energy when faced with resistance.
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Розділи

1. Introduction (00:00:00)

2. What’s bringing me joy right now (00:02:30)

3. The power of natural consequences (00:06:10)

4. Take the long view (00:08:43)

5. Speak from the heart (00:11:25)

6. Don’t “correct” their feelings, lecture, or moralize (00:12:42)

7. Honor their intentions, if not their specific actions (00:14:34)

8. What I've been reading lately: Tom Lake (00:17:13)

9. Disengage (or press pause) if the conversation isn’t productive or caring (00:18:13)

10. Focus on cultivating (and maintaining) a warm, respectful relationship with each of our kids (00:19:08)

11. Model apologies for your kids (00:20:36)

12. When you love your kid, but you don’t like them very much (00:21:13)

13. Remember that you have most of the power already (00:23:32)

14. Use silence and discomfort, strategically (00:24:01)

15. Stop responding, when there is nothing more to be said (00:24:55)

16. Address any behavior issues, privately (00:25:17)

17. If what you’re doing doesn't seem to be working very well, try something different (00:26:25)

18. What blew my mind this week (00:26:52)