Ep: 173: You Are Doing Too Much! Co-Dependency Expert: Terri Cole

Diary of An Empath by Keresse Thompson, LCSW

In this engaging conversation, Terri Cole and Keresse Thompson discuss the nuances of high functioning codependency, its impact on relationships, and the importance of setting boundaries. Terri shares her journey from a talent agent to a psychotherapist, emphasizing the transformative power of therapy. They explore common myths surrounding codependency, how to identify over-functioning behaviors, and the significance of asking the right questions in relationships. The discussion highlights the importance of compassion and holding space for others without trying to control or fix their problems. In this conversation, Terri Cole and Keresse Thompson explore the complexities of high functioning codependence, its roots in family dynamics, and the challenges faced in relationships, particularly with narcissistic partners. They discuss the emotional toll of over-responsibility, the importance of vulnerability, and the journey towards empowerment and self-acceptance. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-awareness and the courage to make changes in one's life to foster healthier relationships and personal growth.

takeaways

High functioning codependency is about being overly invested in others' outcomes.

Resentment can serve as a guide to identify where boundaries are needed.

It's important to ask others how they want to be supported.

Many capable individuals struggle with codependency without realizing it.

Setting boundaries is essential for maintaining personal peace.

Compulsive caring can lead to burnout and resentment.

Asking expansive questions fosters deeper connections.

Therapy can empower individuals to change their life narratives.

Authenticity in relationships is crucial for emotional well-being.

Recognizing one's own needs is vital in helping others. High functioning codependents often feel responsible for others' well-being.

Hyper-independence can hinder vulnerability and connection.

Family dynamics play a significant role in shaping codependent behaviors.

Narcissists often attract high functioning codependents due to their complementary needs.

Self-awareness is crucial in breaking the cycle of codependence.

Burnout and health issues are common consequences of codependency.

Parentified daughters often bear unrealistic emotional responsibilities.

Empowerment comes from recognizing one's own needs and boundaries.

Disappointment is a natural part of asserting oneself in relationships.

Change is possible with the right guidance and support.

titles

Chapters

00:00Introduction and Book Launch Excitement

05:45Terri Cole's Journey to Therapy

12:08Myths and Misunderstandings of Codependency

18:01Resentment as a Guide to Boundaries

24:09Holding Space and Compassion in Relationships

32:23The Impact of Family Dynamics

44:36The Costs of High Functioning Codependence

53:39Empowerment and Taking Control of Your Life

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“Too Much”

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