010: A New Look at Fawning and our Survival Strategies with Aundi Kolber

Broken to Beloved Podcast

Most of us are familiar with fight, flight, and freeze. "Fawn" may be a newer one for many of us. I first learned about the fawn response from Aundi’s incredible book, Try Softer. She describes it as “becoming whatever the abuser or potential threat needs to see from you to see that you are not threatening.”

I immediately knew it was one of my primary trauma responses, and it shocked me to look back and see just how often I’d done it. And I felt shame for it.

Aundi graciously offers a new and kinder way to see it.

We talk about what it looks like to be survivor-centered in our work, reframing our fawn response, and moving toward internal integration and wholeness.

If you want to know what it looks like to heal after harm, this episode’s for you.

Get the full show notes here. 📄
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Guest Spotlight

Aundi is a licensed professional counselor and the best selling author of the critically acclaimed Try Softer™, Try Softer™ Guided Journey and her newest offerings: Strong like Water and Strong like Water Guided Journey.

She has received additional training in her specialization of trauma- and body-centered therapies and is passionate about the integration of faith and psychology.

As a survivor of trauma, Aundi brings hard-won knowledge about the work of change, the power of redemption, and the beauty of experiencing God with us in our pain.

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• Try Softer
• Try Softer Guided Journey
• Strong Like Water
• Strong Like Water Guided Journey

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