Stop Fighting Reality & You'll Always Win

Wise Women Love Themselves

When you stop fighting with reality, you win!

Today's message is a paraphrase of something Byron Katie says which is: “When you argue with reality, you lose, but only 100% of the time.” and she's right you know. When we're arguing with reality, not only are we losing, but we're also missing out on the beauty of what really is happening and the fact that we can trust what is happening because there is a bigger force than us in charge here and we can trust that. Not only can we trust it, but we can also sink into the fact that no matter what is happening, it's okay because it's happening!

I'll let Katie tell us how this works: "The only time we suffer is when we believe a thought that argues with what is. When the mind is perfectly clear, what is is what we want.

If you want reality to be different than it is, you might as well try to teach a cat to bark. You can try and try, and in the end, the cat will look up at you and say, "Meow." Wanting reality to be different than it is is hopeless. You can spend the rest of your life trying to teach a cat to bark.

And yet, if you pay attention, you'll notice that you think thoughts like these dozens of times a day. "People should be kinder." "Children should be well-behaved." "My neighbors should take better care of their lawn." "The line at the grocery store should move faster." "My husband (or wife) should agree with me." "I should be thinner (or prettier or more successful)." These thoughts are ways of wanting reality to be different than it is. If you think that this sounds depressing, you're right. All the stress that we feel is caused by arguing with what is."

If any of this resonates with you and you want to learn more, join me next month in my Wise Words from the Woods Book Club, where we'll be reading Katie's book: I Need Your Love - Is That True? and delving more into the freedom that is The Work of Byron Katie. Find info and some great freebies here.

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