092: Why is Self-Care so Difficult?

The Better Man Podcast

Most guys who are interested in self-care and self-improvement struggle heavily with it. Flicking on the TV or loading your favorite social media for doom scrolling is so much easier. Especially when you lead a busy life and are responsible for your family.

And you know what?

I struggle with this too. It’s a daily battle to pick the activity that’s rewarding in the long-term instead of the one that’s numbing in the short-term.

But it’s possible to make the right choice even when you’re exhausted and your willpower is empty. In fact, I just went through this exact process last week. After a long, stress-filled morning, I plopped down on my couch after putting my daughter down for a nap, and flicked on the TV.

But then a voice inside my head challenged me to use my time wisely. And in this episode, I share exactly what I did to flick off the TV and work on myself instead.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• Why it’s such a struggle to prioritize self-care (and strategies to make it easier)

• A prose I wrote called “Choosing Self-Care” that gives you a sneak peek into my brain—and reveals how I flicked off the TV (try this next time you want to veg out)

• How to make time in your schedule for the activities that truly matter

Some other highlights include:

• One question to ask yourself when you’re low on willpower to hijack your brain for self-care (2:07)

• The insidious “mentally buzzed” trap you fall into each time you flick on your TV or open a social media app (3:29)

• How to choose what’s rewarding instead of what’s numbing (4:57)

• Why your environment is a better predictor of the success of your goals than motivation, willpower, or discipline (8:36)

Listen now!

Resources mentioned on this episode:

1. Be The Better You Retreat: The next Be The Better You Retreat happens this weekend in Austin, TX. While I haven’t scheduled the next one yet, I will do another one later in 2024. Subscribe to our emails to stay in the loop if you’d like to come.

2. Man Flow Yoga Engage Beta: I kicked off the beta for Man Flow Yoga Engage recently—and we’re ironing out all the kinks to make it even more impactful for men looking for more from their life. The next cohort opens in July, so keep an eye out if you’re interested in joining.

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