Dan Savage On Being Monogamish - Dan Savage - 492

Relationship School Podcast

Are you simply defaulting to monogamy?

Have you ever genuinely asked yourself, "Would a different sexual model work better for me?"

Dan Savage, an author, sex-advice columnist, podcaster, and public speaker, suggests that we should all regularly pose these questions to ourselves. Dan and his husband have chosen what they call a "monogamish" relationship. They've acknowledged that it's impossible to fulfill all of your partner's needs, and that's a message from which we can all learn.

While we typically focus on monogamous long-term relationships, in this episode, we'll explore how various types of relationships can be successful. Tune in and prepare for some introspection into your own sexual expression.

Timestamps:

• 5:00 - What does monogamish mean?
• 11:27 - Eroticism in a long-term relationship
• 17:24 - Bringing in a third
• 23:37 - Monogamy as the default setting
• 31:00 - Changing broken marraige norms
• 33:50 - Dan's relationship journey
• 46:49 - Allowing for erotic autonomy
• 53:57 - Dan's advice for young people
• 59:00 - Action step

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