EP.61 - Heidi Dinning - "They Are Still In the Nest, It’s Just Wider"

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Join us today once again with Divorce Coach Heidi Dinning, who previously shared valuable insights in Episode 54: "Divorce Doesn't Break The Family, It Actually Can Shift The Family." In this latest episode, Heidi delves into the intricacies of making the divorce process child-centric, shedding light on common pitfalls parents often encounter.

Drawing from her expertise, Heidi emphasizes the role of clear communication and emotional awareness during divorce. She addresses the balance required when providing age-appropriate information, cautioning against inadvertently placing children in the middle of the emotional turmoil.

Heidi also underscores the significance of understanding that children only know what they are told. As non-professionals in divorce and relationships, it is the responsibility of parents to model and shape their perspective on what is happening. Children should not be burdened with the emotional intricacies of the divorce process; instead, parents should guide them with care.

Furthermore, Heidi advocates for parents to take charge of their emotions. It is crucial not to let children absorb the emotional weight of the situation. Instead of having kids take on the parents' emotions, the focus should be on helping them navigate and understand their own feelings.

Heidi also addresses the issue of transitions between homes. She suggests creating a seamless "figure 8" pattern where children smoothly go back and forth between households. Minimizing the impact of these transitions is essential for providing stability and a sense of normalcy in the lives of the children.

Listeners will gain valuable insights into shaping a positive co-parenting experience and ensuring their children not only navigate but thrive amidst the challenges of divorce.
Don't miss this episode for expert guidance on fostering a supportive environment for your children and navigating the complexities of divorce with grace.

Credentials and Resources:

CDC® Certified Divorce Coach
CDC® Divorce Recovery Coach
Interpersonal Communications Expert
High Conflict Institute - New Ways For Families® Licensed Practitioner
Co-Parenting Without Conflict®

Author: Navigating The Hard Conversations E-Book

The REAL 'How To’ Talk To Your Kids About Divorce

https://go.heididinning.com/ultimate-guide

Do You Think Your Spouse/Ex is a Narcissist Free Guide:

https://heididinning.com/free-resources/

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