Armand and Bobby: A Father's Love, Loss, and Healing

Man Up to Cancer

“As a dad, things are supposed to happen in a certain way, in order. Armand was supposed to bury me, I was not supposed to bury him… You have a plan. As a parent you think about growing old, you think about the grandkids.. all that stuff is gone… Every sort of fantasy, or whatever you want to call it, is gone…” - Robert Ramirez, Petaluma, Calif.

In November of 2018, Robert and Elaine Ramirez lost their 37-year-old son, Armand, to metastatic colon cancer. They have experienced a heart-wrenching journey of love, loss, and healing.

On today's show, I speak with Robert about his experience as a father who had a son die from cancer. He talks about the tools he has used to cope, including journaling, reading, groups, therapy, and music. He also talks about the hole in his life that will always be there.

Thank you Robert for opening your heart for this emotional and important episode.

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