How To Build Confidence - Even if You're Quiet, Shy, or Introverted

Girl, Choose Yourself!

In this empowering episode, Eimear shares insights on building authentic confidence, especially for introverts and quieter personalities. Through personal stories and practical strategies, she reveals how confidence isn't about being the loudest in the room, but about trusting yourself and taking purposeful action.

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Introduction: Embrace Self-Trust and Soar

00:45 Building Confidence for Introverts

02:43 The Myth of Inborn Confidence

04:22 Personal Story: Overcoming Childhood Humiliation

07:32 The Power of Amplifying your Ally Voice

16:48 Mind-Body Connection: Managing Nervousness

22:08 Golf, Attention and Focus: The Key to Confidence

28:09 Conclusion: Confidence is a Skill

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Confidence is a skill that can be built, not a personality trait
• Introverts often make better leaders due to their listening skills
• The equation for confidence: Belief × Action × Purpose
• Managing your internal dialogue is crucial for building confidence
• Success comes from focusing on the next step, not the final outcome

QUOTABLE MOMENTS

"Confidence is belief with boots on. It gets to work."

Eimear Zone

"Our life is what our thoughts make it."

Marcus Aurelius

"It's really easy to hit a good shot when you're feeling good, and it's really difficult to hit a great shot when you're feeling bad."

Pádraig Harrington

PRACTICAL TOOLS

1. The Ally Voice Exercise - Identifying and amplifying your supportive inner dialogue
2. Box Breathing Technique - Four-count breathing for nervous system regulation
3. The Next Step Focus - Breaking big challenges into immediate actionable steps
4. Body Awareness Practice - Recognizing and working with physical sensations of nervousness

RESOURCES

📚 Choose Yourself Book

Share your insights: Use #ChooseYourself on Instagram

📖 Recommended Reading: Meditations by Marcus Aurelius

BONUS TIPS FOR INTROVERTS

• Remember that nervousness and excitement create the same physical sensations
• Focus on one small step at a time rather than the entire challenge
• Write down your ally voice statements to counter the saboteur voice
• Develop your own pre-performance ritual to manage nervous energy
• Trust that confidence can be quiet and still be powerful

The three fundamental principles for building confidence:

1. Choose which voice to amplify (ally vs. saboteur)
2. Work with your body, not against it
3. Manage your attention and focus on the next best step

CONNECT WITH EIMEAR

📱 Instagram: @eimearzonecoach

💻 Website: eimearzone.com 📧

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