125. Bury Your Gays

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In previous episodes, we explored the history of gay representation in TV and film, touching on stereotypes and the challenges faced by queer creators. One major roadblock has been the "Bury Your Gays" trope, which limits authentic representation by perpetuating harmful narratives that often depict LGBTQ+ characters as tragic or expendable, rather than allowing for diverse, fully realized stories.
In this episode, we’re diving into the origins of the "Bury Your Gays" trope, examining its ongoing presence in media, and discussing how creators can shift away from it to foster more authentic and meaningful LGBTQ+ representation in the future.
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1. Snarky Opener (00:00:00)

2. Episode Introduction (00:00:24)

3. Bury Your Gays (00:01:51)

4. Tarot (00:02:42)

5. What is Bury Your Gays? (00:04:20)

6. Variants of the Bury Your Gays Trope (00:05:10)

7. Themes of Bury Your Gays (00:06:43)

8. The Origins of Bury Your Gays (00:07:12)

9. Ties to the Gay Panic Defense (00:08:56)

10. The Hays Code (00:10:12)

11. Modern Examples of Bury Your Gays (00:11:58)

12. Moving Away from Bury Your Gays (00:14:25)

13. Episode Closing (00:16:01)

14. Connect with A Jaded Gay (00:19:21)

15. Outtake (00:21:04)

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Розділи

1. Snarky Opener (00:00:00)

2. Episode Introduction (00:00:24)

3. Bury Your Gays (00:01:51)

4. Tarot (00:02:42)

5. What is Bury Your Gays? (00:04:20)

6. Variants of the Bury Your Gays Trope (00:05:10)

7. Themes of Bury Your Gays (00:06:43)

8. The Origins of Bury Your Gays (00:07:12)

9. Ties to the Gay Panic Defense (00:08:56)

10. The Hays Code (00:10:12)

11. Modern Examples of Bury Your Gays (00:11:58)

12. Moving Away from Bury Your Gays (00:14:25)

13. Episode Closing (00:16:01)

14. Connect with A Jaded Gay (00:19:21)

15. Outtake (00:21:04)

141 епізодів

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