Eps. 10: Make The Choice- How Trusting Your Decisions Unlocks Peace (and New Adventures) Full Send Into Adulthood: A Podcast Supporting Young Adults podcast

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In this episode, we delve into the concept of being "qualified" in the workplace, examining who gets labeled as such, who doesn't, and the underlying reasons. We explore "competency checking"—the practice of scrutinizing individuals' abilities—and how it disproportionately affects underrepresented groups, often going unnoticed or unchallenged. Our discussion aims to redefine qualifications in a fair, equitable, and actionable manner. Our guest, Shari Dunn , is an accomplished journalist, former attorney, news anchor, CEO, university professor, and sought-after speaker. She has been recognized as Executive of the Year and a Woman of Influence, with her work appearing in Fortune Magazine, The Wall Street Journal, Ad Age, and more. Her new book, Qualified: How Competency Checking and Race Collide at Work , unpacks what it truly means to be deserving and capable—and why systemic barriers, not personal deficits, are often the real problem. Her insights challenge the narratives that hold so many of us back and offer practical solutions for building a more equitable future. Together, we can build workplaces and communities that don’t just reflect the world we live in, but the one we want to create. A world where being qualified is about recognizing the talent and potential that’s been overlooked for far too long. It’s not just about getting a seat at the table—it’s about building an entirely new table, one designed with space for all of us. Connect with Our Guest Shari Dunn Website& Book - Qualified: https://thesharidunn.com LI: https://www.linkedin.com/today/author/sharidunn TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesharidunn Related Podcast Episodes: How To Build Emotionally Mature Leaders with Dr. Christie Smith | 272 Holding It Together: Women As America's Safety Net with Jessica Calarco | 215 How To Defy Expectations with Dr. Sunita Sah | 271 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music…

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In this episode, Cielle shares insights about decision-making. She dives into the real struggle of self-doubt after making choices, sharing the tip that we can choose to make our decisions "right" for us in that moment, and the value of trusting past decisions. Cielle also talks about why your journey and personal growth from making decisions matter more than the final outcome, encouraging you to embrace the process and the lessons you pick up along the way. Whether you're feeling unsure about a big decision or just want to learn how to trust your path, this episode has you covered.

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decision-making tips for young adults, self doubt after decisions, trust yourself, genz, personal growth from decisions, embracing the journey, decision making, commitment, choices, life lessons, journey, self-reflection

Takeaways:

Self-doubt loves to show up after we make a decision — it’s totally normal.
Committing to a choice is how you actually live that choice.
Trusting your past decisions can help quiet the self-doubt noise.
Honestly, the journey usually teaches you way more than the destination.
Making decisions means juggling a lot of different things — it’s not always simple.
It’s okay to change your mind! That’s part of the process.
Walking your path often leads to surprises you never saw coming. Seriously!

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Personal Story
03:49 Committing to a Choice Matters
07:25 Committing to a Choice is an Action
10:30 When Choosing brings up a Doubting Spiral
12:34 Trusting Your Past Self's Decision-Making
15:22 Changing Paths and Experiencing the Journey
16:55 The Purpose of Making Choices
19:32 Conclusion
20:17 Engage and Connect with the Podcast
21:40 Supporting the Podcast Community

As always, a big thank you to my amazingly wonderful and very cute husband for the intro- and to my friends, Miracle Laurie and Bobbo Byrnes, for their song Effin' Groovy in the outro. Both of these humans have NEW albums out now- that are REAL good- so go check them out too.

Thank you for taking a listen!

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Eps. 10: Make the Choice- How Trusting Your Decisions Unlocks Peace (and New Adventures)

Full Send into Adulthood: A Podcast Supporting Young Adults

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Takeaways:

Self-doubt loves to show up after we make a decision — it’s totally normal.
Committing to a choice is how you actually live that choice.
Trusting your past decisions can help quiet the self-doubt noise.
Honestly, the journey usually teaches you way more than the destination.
Making decisions means juggling a lot of different things — it’s not always simple.
It’s okay to change your mind! That’s part of the process.
Walking your path often leads to surprises you never saw coming. Seriously!

Chapters:

Thank you for taking a listen!

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Eps. 10: Make the Choice- How Trusting Your Decisions Unlocks Peace (and New Adventures) 22:47

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Summary: In this episode, Cielle shares insights about decision-making. She dives into the real struggle of self-doubt after making choices, sharing the tip that we can choose to make our decisions "right" for us in that moment, and the value of trusting past decisions. Cielle also talks about why your journey and personal growth from making decisions matter more than the final outcome, encouraging you to embrace the process and the lessons you pick up along the way. Whether you're feeling unsure about a big decision or just want to learn how to trust your path, this episode has you covered. Keywords: decision-making tips for young adults, self doubt after decisions, trust yourself, genz, personal growth from decisions, embracing the journey, decision making, commitment, choices, life lessons, journey, self-reflection Takeaways: Self-doubt loves to show up after we make a decision — it’s totally normal. Committing to a choice is how you actually live that choice. Trusting your past decisions can help quiet the self-doubt noise. Honestly, the journey usually teaches you way more than the destination. Making decisions means juggling a lot of different things — it’s not always simple. It’s okay to change your mind! That’s part of the process. Walking your path often leads to surprises you never saw coming. Seriously! Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Personal Story 03:49 Committing to a Choice Matters 07:25 Committing to a Choice is an Action 10:30 When Choosing brings up a Doubting Spiral 12:34 Trusting Your Past Self's Decision-Making 15:22 Changing Paths and Experiencing the Journey 16:55 The Purpose of Making Choices 19:32 Conclusion 20:17 Engage and Connect with the Podcast 21:40 Supporting the Podcast Community As always, a big thank you to my amazingly wonderful and very cute husband for the intro- and to my friends, Miracle Laurie and Bobbo Byrnes, for their song Effin' Groovy in the outro. Both of these humans have NEW albums out now- that are REAL good- so go check them out too. Thank you for taking a listen!…

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Eps. 9: Syllabus Secrets- Unlock College Success in Week 1 20:30

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Summary: I know those Syllabi can be boring- and yet... the syllabus is basically a type of agreement or c ontract that you agree to by staying in the class. Yup- no signature required. You can also use it as the cheat code to ensure you survive (and thrive ;) in the class. I'm breaking down the parts of the syllabus I highly suggest you read and how to use it to your advantage. Spoiler: Not all classes are the same, and neither are the instructors. So, pick the ones that vibe with your priorities! And always keep an eye on those emails from your prof—they can override anything in the syllabus. Tune in, and let’s make this semester your best one yet! 🚀 Keywords: syllabus, college, student success, student support, agreement, contract, rules, consequences, grades, financial aid, understanding, instructors, grading, attendance policies, communication, emails, learning preferences, addendums Takeaways: Syllabi function as a type of contract between students and instructors in college Staying in a class implies agreement to the terms outlined in the syllabus Changes or addendums to the syllabus communicated often supersede the original syllabus (even via email) Students should consider their learning preferences and priorities to make informed choices when selecting classes You have the option to choose classes and instructors that align with their learning preferences and needs Sound Bites: "What people don't tell you about the syllabus is that it is basically a contract. "By you staying in the class, you are agreeing to the terms." "Differences in syllabi can be the difference in your grade, passing or failing, and getting financial aid." Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the Syllabus as an Agreement 01:32 Sections of the Syllabus to Pay Attention to: Grading 05:30 Instructors often Determine How they Accommodate Absences 07:40 The Significance of School Emails 12:15 Choosing Classes and Instructors Based on YOUR Priorities 18:00 Engage and Connect with the Podcast 19:22 Supporting the Podcast Community Special Thank You: To my amazing partner, Brandon Ward, for the intro. AND to the amazing Miracle Laurie and Bobbo Byrnes for their tune Effin' Groovy in the outro. So lucky!…

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Eps 8: College is a Tool to Enhance Your Life 21:04

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Summary: The purpose of the university is to serve and enhance the lives of students. Colleges and universities are tools that can be used to pursue interests, explore possibilities, and fulfill personal curiosities- for YOU. Students- you get to approach the college experience with meeting your needs and wants. The analogy of a restaurant is used to illustrate the idea that students have the power to choose their experiences and that it can be tailored to individual preferences, goals, and circumstances. Make it fit you! Keywords: college, university, purpose, serve, enhance, students, tools, interests, possibilities, advocate, experiences, tailored, student success, college life Takeaways: The purpose of the university is to serve and enhance the lives of students. College is a tool that can be used to pursue interests, explore possibilities, and fulfill personal curiosities. Students- you are allowed to approach the college experience with your personal and specific intentions and advocate for yourself to ensure you get what they want and need. Sound Bites "The purpose of the university, aka the purpose of a job, can also be to serve you." "Approach college like going to a restaurant - choose what you want, advocate for yourself, and tailor the experience to your preferences." "You are allowed to switch classes, change majors, and make changes to your college experience." Chapters 00:00 The Purpose of College: Serving and Enhancing Students' Lives 04:56 Advocating for Yourself: Choosing the Right Courses and Majors 09:44 Personalization and Flexibility: Considering Preferences and Circumstances 12:51 Exploring Opportunities: Making Changes and Trying New Things Special Thank You: To my amazing husband for the intro. And to my amazing friends- Miracle Laurie and Bobbo Byrnes for their tune, Effin Groovy, that is in the outro. I am surrounded by the best!…

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Eps 7: Independence and Freedom in a Marriage? with Brandon Ward (her husband) 1:05:25

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Summary In this conversation, Cielle and Brandon discuss their relationship and the concepts of independence/freedom as it pertains to their marriage. They share their first impressions of each other and talk about their journey of getting engaged, moving in together, and how to keep a long lasting relationship from not 'getting boring'. They discuss the stereotypes and societal expectations surrounding marriage and highlight the importance of communication and transparency in maintaining a strong partnership. In this conversation, Cielle and Brandon discuss the challenges and joys of marriage, including the importance of investing in each other's passions and interests, the beauty of communal care, the importance of assuming good intent, and being intentional in showing love. Keywords relationship, marriage, independence, moving in together, roommates, communication, transparency, marriage, challenges, joys, investing, passions, interests, communal care, financial independence, freedom, love languages, assuming good intent, intentional care, life coach, life coaching, colorado life coach, denver life coach, relationship tips Takeaways Marriage is a choice and not necessarily a loss of independence (depending on the definition) For us, communication and transparency are super duper necessary Stereotypes and societal expectations should not define a marriage Maintaining a strong relationship requires reassessing and adapting along the way Investing in each other's passions and interests is important in a partnership There is beauty in communal care and depending on each other for livelihood and subsistence. Assuming good intent and being intentional in showing love is crucial Keeping the relationship from getting boring can include creativity, creating weird and fun moments, and finding joy in the ordinary Love languages that feel supporting can shift hourly- you can actually ask for what you need. Sound Bites "Living together as a couple requires open communication and transparency." "Moving in together is a personal choice and doesn't have a one-size-fits-all approach." "Marriage is a commitment to be in it together, supporting and loving each other." "There is a beauty in communal care, in being able to take care of each other and be able to depend on people." "It feels good to be able to trade off and support each other. I know we are going to be that team." Chapters 00:00 Intro 01:36 Topic Intro: Is there Freedom and Independence in Marriage? 03:05 Brandon Introducing Himself 05:06 How We Met and Got Engaged 08:21 Any Advice on Moving In Together? 14:37 What Was Our First Impressions of Each Other? 19:47 How Do You Make It Feel Like You Are Not Roommates? 24:22 Independence and Marriage? 40:04 Freedom and Marriage? 45:55 What Has Tested Our Marriage The Most? 50:01 Tips to Not Let the Relationship Get Boring 54:22 What To Do If Love Languages Don't Align? Mentions: Thank you, Brandon Ward, for being my partner, being a guest on this episode, and also for creating the intro. I love you. Big thank you to Miracle Laurie and Bobbo Byrnes for the music used in the outro Effin' Groovy. AND, if you have not checked them out yet- they both have amazing music out with new albums and singles! Woot!…

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Eps 6: Feeling Good about Choosing COLLEGE or NOT College 28:09

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Summary: This episode focuses on being at the helm of choosing whether college is right for us right now or not, feeling really good about the choice, and how not to be disappointed by the outcome. Dr. C emphasizes the importance of choosing either as a value add towards winning this game of life that we are playing. There are various reasons why people choose college, such as pursuing a specific career, exploring different interests, or fulfilling familial expectations. There are also various reasons why people choose not to go to college, such as not needed a degree to prove worth, which is also valid. Cielle encourages listeners to trust themselves and make decisions that align with their values and aspirations. Keywords: college, college experience, intrinsic motivation, career, exploration, familial expectations, end goal, trust, decision-making, first gen, gen Z, young adults, adulting, empowerment, redefine success, purpose driven, personal growth, live on your own terms, authentic self, mindfulness, break the stigma, life coach, fulfillment, personally meaningful life Takeaways: Choose college for yourself and find intrinsic motivation. Have a clear goal(s) and utilize college as a tool to achieve them. We are allowed to explore different interests and use college (or not college) as an opportunity for personal growth Foundational to adulting is beginning to trust ourselves and make decisions that make sense to us right now Sound Bites: "There are a variety of ways to do this thing called life, there are a variety of ways to even do this thing called college, that will have it so that either you get to graduation and you have it feel really luscious and fulfilling, or there are ways to go through it where you get to that graduation and it feels empty and it feels disappointing." "There are ways to choose not to do college and have it feel life crap, like you're a disappointment, like you let people down. And there are ways to choose not doing college that fills you up with respect and feeling proud of yourself" "College becomes a value add in the game of life." "A job is not guaranteed; because college degree equals job is not a formula in the real world." Chapters: 00:00 How to Make the College (Not College) Experience Feel Worthwhile for You 03:02 Different Reasons for College 04:46 Having the College (Not College) Experience Feel Fulfilling and Yummy 08:08 Choosing Your Path 20:39 Trusting Yourself and Your Journey 22:12 Finding Joy in the Pursuit of Your Goals Mentions: As always, thank you to the amazing Brandon Ward for voicing the into (he is a wonderful husband too)- and to the amazing Bobbo Byrnes and Miracle Laurie for their song Effin' Groovy in the outro. It is pretty Effin' Groovy! Heehee.…

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Eps 5: Pursuing Joy despite the Fear of F*cking Up with Blake Casias-West 1:02:14

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Summary In this conversation, Cielle interviews her first guest, Blake Casias-West, who was a student in her class before the pandemic. Blake shares his journey of questioning the traditional education system and ultimately deciding that college was not for him. He talks about the pressure to conform and the realization that he didn't need a degree to validate his artistic abilities. They explore the struggle of always striving for extraordinary while spending most of our lives in the ordinary and separating our worth from college degrees. Blake shares his personal journey of overcoming challenges and finding happiness by pursuing his passion for art and tattooing. CW: Mention of Suicide Attempt and Sexual Assault Keywords podcast, guest, support, conversation, education system, college, questioning, artistic abilities, conformity, limitations, pursuing one's own path, extraordinary, college degree, accomplishments, pressure, restart, exhaustion, confusion, social media, expectations, personal meaning, challenges, happiness, art, tattooing, self-acceptance Takeaways The limitations of the education system and the pressure to conform Validating finding joy in one's own path The pressure to always do something extraordinary can be exhausting and confusing Receiving a degree or certification can feel like an extraordinary feat, but it's important to remember that life goes on afterwards. Social media can intensify societal expectations and the need to show off accomplishments. Finding personal meaning in life is more important than striving to be extraordinary. Self-acceptance and pursuing personal passions can lead to happiness and fulfillment. Sound Bites "I don't need a degree to prove to me that I'm a good artist." "We're back to life again. We restarted. I'm on a new level. I'm on a new game." "99% of our lives is lived in the ordinary." Chapters 00:00 Introductions and Finding Your Own Way 15:11 Why Start College? 19:23 The Value of Personal Accomplishments 21:28 When One Path Doesn't Work For All 25:12 Our Value Is Separate From Degrees Earned 30:15 Defining Worth Beyond Degrees 31:06 The Pressure to Perform and the Impact of Social Media 35:01 Living a Life That is Personally Meaningful 35:13 Overcoming the Fear of Failure 38:13 Finding Joy and Embracing Individuality 46:11 How to Stand Back Up 54:50 How to Deal With the Fear of Doing It Wrong Thank you to Brandon Ward for the amazing intro and to Bobbo Byrnes and Miracle Laurie for their song Effin' Groovy that plays during the outro.…

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Eps 4: The Intelligence Beneath Anxiety and Procrastination: What’s Really Going On? 38:55

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Summary: In this episode, Cielle discusses the importance of building trust with ourselves by embracing that our thoughts, feelings, and reactions are valid and make sense. She explains that anxiety is a natural response to threat and danger, and procrastination can be a symptom of flight, freeze, fight, or fawn stress cycle responses. By understanding the root causes of our anxieties and procrastination, we can make conscious choices. This episode is perfect for Gen Z, college students, and young adults looking to understand (and unshame) their own anxieties and procrastination. By gaining self-awareness and making choices that serve us best, we can build trust and confidence in ourselves. Keywords: trust, self-validation, anxiety, procrastination, flight, freeze, fight, fawn, self-awareness, self-confidence Takeaways: Anxiety signals threat and danger; it is not a sign of weakness or inadequacy. Procrastination can be a symptom of flight, freeze, fight, or fawn responses, and understanding the reasons behind it can help us make choices that serve us best. Validating our emotions and embracing our valid thoughts, feelings, and reactions is crucial for building self-awareness and self-confidence. By gaining self-awareness and making choices that serve us best, we can build trust and confidence in ourselves. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction: Exploring the Concept of Making Sense 04:18 Examples of Validity and Making Sense 06:30 Understanding the Nervous System 08:59 Anxiety as a Natural Response to Threat 22:44 Different Stress Responses: Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn 31:39 Practical Applications: Understanding and Validating Anxiety and Procrastination 35:52 Conclusion: Building Trust with Ourselves Mentions: Thank you always to my wonderful husband, Brandon Ward, for the intro. And to the amazing duo Miracle Laurie and Bobbo Byrnes for the song Effin' Groovy used in the outro. Appreciate you all.…

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Eps 3: Prove Them Wrong- Building A Life You're Proud Of 22:43

40 weeks тому22:43

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Summary: This conversation is about young adults leading meaningful lives, overcoming self-doubt, and creating social change. Cielle addresses common concerns of young adults, such as self-doubt, negative self-talk, fear of change, and feeling enough. She emphasizes the power young adults already have to make positive change and challenges the marginalization of young adults in society by focusing on themselves and reimagining what a personally meaningful life can look like. Dr C. encourages young adults to trust themselves, validate their experiences, and embrace their unique ways of doing things. The conversation also touches on the importance of dismantling oppressive systems and reimagining the future. Keywords: young adults, meaningful lives, self-doubt, social change, power, marginalization, confidence, trust, validation, oppressive systems, reimagining, Gen Z empowerment, reimagine future, positive impact Takeaways: Young adults often struggle with self-doubt, negative self-talk, and fear of change. This is normal. You are not the only one. Promise. Young adults have the power to create social change and make a long-lasting positive impact on their communities. Society often marginalizes young adults and underestimates their abilities and potential. Validating and trusting oneself is essential for personal growth and making confident decisions. Dismantling oppressive systems and reimagining the future is the byproduct of creating and living fulfilling lives for yourselves. Keep it up! Special thank you to Brandon Ward for the intro and to the wonderful Bobbo Byrnes and Miracle Laurie whose song Effin Groovy plays during the outro.…

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Eps 2: How Am I Supposed To Know What's Right? (Treating Yourself as CEO) 36:01

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Summary: In this episode, Cielle explores the question of how to know what's right and how to make decisions that feel good and fulfilling. She emphasizes the importance of trusting ourselves and creating our own standards and values. Cielle shares personal anecdotes and analogies to illustrate her points, including the role of a coach in supporting and providing different perspectives. She encourages listeners to treat themselves like they matter and to filter outside opinions as one would listen to a consultant rather than as absolute truths. Ultimately, she highlights the importance of making choices based on what feels good and aligns with our own vision and values. Keywords: decision-making, trust, standards, values, coach, perspective, opinions, fulfillment, life coach, choices, adulting Takeaways You can begin to trust yourself and create your own standards and values What does "right" actually mean? We can treat ourselves like the CEO of our life, where we gather information from consultants (ie other humans), to then see if it works for us Don't be afraid to take breaks or deviate from societal norms if it aligns with your vision and values Treat yourself like you matter and prioritize what feels good and fulfilling to you Sound Bites: "What if you treated yourself like you mattered?" "You are allowed to create your own standards" "What if you treated yourself like your ideas mattered equally as much as other people's?" Chapters: 00:00 Beginning to Trust Ourselves with Decisions 08:40 Being CEOs Of Our Lives: And Considering Consultant's Perspectives 11:35 What Is A Life Coach? 17:50 Definition Of "Right": Who Gets To Create The Standard? 31:11 What If You Treated Yourself Like You Mattered? 34:22 Engage and Connect with the Podcast 35:15 Supporting the Podcast Community The coach I mentioned in the podcast is the wonderful Marriage and Relationship Coach Maggie Reyes. Highly Recommend. https://maggiereyes.com/ Music: - Thank you to Brandon Ward for the intro - The music in the outro is Effin Groovy by the amazing Bobbo Byrnes and Miracle Laurie…

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Eps 1: Building our Relationship 36:46

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