EP#163: The Play Pt 1: A Sex Party Where Art Meets Erotic Expression

The Open Bedroom Podcast

Michael Hollis started The Play, a lifestyle sex party where art meets erotic expression located in Los Angeles to be a place for people in open relationships that was different.

This is Part 1, where we discuss who The Play is For, The Price, the STI Testing policy, what to expect, and more.

Part 2 will go out next Sunday.

Introduction (00:00:00)

Becoming Ethically Non-Monogamous (00:00:52)

Michael shares his and his wife's transition to ethical non-monogamy and its impact on their lives.

Experiences in the Lifestyle (00:01:13)

Discussion of various party experiences, from large hotel takeovers to intimate gatherings in Joshua Tree.

Inspiration for Play Parties (00:04:08)

A memorable movie night sparks the idea for a party focused on self-expression and artistic performances.

Establishing Party Pillars (00:06:13)

Michael explains the foundational pillars of health, consent, intimacy, and artistry in his play parties.

Testing Process and Inclusions (00:09:27)

Michael details the STI testing requirements and how they accommodate individuals with different health statuses.

Community Health Focus (00:12:06)

The importance of community health and regular testing is discussed, highlighting the growth of the play community.

Handling STI Outbreaks (00:14:50)

The protocol for attendees who experience outbreaks is explained, emphasizing community support and understanding.

Inclusivity of the Play Parties (00:17:54)

Michael discusses who the play parties are for, emphasizing inclusivity and the intersection of art and sexuality.

Overview of a Night at the Play (00:19:03)

An outline of what attendees can expect during a night at the play party is provided to manage expectations.

Expectations Based on Pricing (00:20:06)

Discussion on how price points create expectations and power dynamics at play parties.

Diversity in the Community (00:24:03)

Michael highlights the diverse makeup of attendees, ensuring a welcoming environment for all.

Artistic Expression at Parties (00:25:55)

Exploration of how guests' fantasies are realized through creative performances at play parties.

Unique Experiences at Each Party (00:30:02)

Every play party is different, with new themes and guests creating unique atmospheres.

Preparation and Boundaries for Couples (00:34:07)

Discussion on how couples should communicate their boundaries before attending play parties.

Navigating Open Relationships (00:36:39)

Michael advises on the necessary conversations for couples exploring open relationships and boundaries.

Introduction to Intimacy at Play Parties (00:39:27)

Discussion on boundaries and the role of intimacy in play parties.

Overview of Play Party Structure (00:39:49)

Michael explains the preparation and entry process for attendees at play parties.

Encouraging Creative Expression (00:41:17)

Attendees are encouraged to bring creative items, enhancing the party's atmosphere.

Phone Policy to Reduce Anxiety (00:42:11)

The importance of phone checks to maintain focus and reduce distractions during the event.

Rules for Entry (00:42:57)

Three core rules: no phones, no money, and no hierarchy to ensure equality.

Building Authentic Connections (00:47:02)

How the initial activities foster intimacy and authentic connections among attendees.

Boundary Conversations (00:47:32)

Encouraging attendees to discuss their boundaries as a way to enhance communication.

Understanding and Respecting Boundaries (00:48:38)

The significance of boundary conversations for respectful interactions at play parties.

Consent Education (00:52:12)

Discussion on what consent looks like and emphasizing the importance of enthusiastic yes.

Responding to No (00:54:10)

Advice on how to gracefully accept a no and maintain respect for personal boundaries.

Follow The Play:

https://www.instagram.com/theplay.la/

Follow Jen:

https://linktr.ee/jenniferkayloruscin

--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theopenbedroompodcast/support