#322; Bet on the future version of who; invest in the PHASIC process. Youre focused on the wrong things/ ben Maysfield smith

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Building from a more empty canvas, its a different dragon to fight - #

You cant keep trying to lose the last couple kgs or get to the lean without going through the other phases

The end physique needs to be built

If this is you, my biggest tips to help this period:

1- Focus on performance metrics

2- Accept bodyfat is part of the process

3- Understand scale weight is only data and not reflective of you are a person

4- Constantly check in with yourself, remember you’re more than the scale or photo

5- To build a dream physique, accept being uncomfortable

6- Journal your thoughts to prevent negative self-talk and challenge irrational thoughts of self.

# Doing hard things…”balance cant coexist when trying to change who you are”

Everything is phasic

Balance does NOT co exist with fatloss

With extreme goals

But its also not forever

Playing too comfortable can hold you back… we went from one bro extreme of hard core bodybuilding bro shit;... to now resisting the work - resisting things of like having

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Sometimes its not in pushing harder but in taking an alternative approach

Sometimes you need to do unsustainable things to get to a place where you can find a new level of normal

But this is where social media lets you down

they always preach leaning down weight loss ove rand over

They each you ohw to lose weight and speak of that but hardly anything else

The 12 week transformations

Noone has patience for anything else

People hire coaches or do things only to lose weight

They wont subscribe or anything else

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Trying to build muscle but be as lean as you can

Wanting to build muscle but refusing to eat enough because you are scared of the scale or gaining more weight

Your pants feeling tight when you say you want more defined legs which demands building muscle

People are mentality resistant to dieting

Unable to give a fatloss phase what it takes

Because despite not physically seeing results - theyre living in a limbo because they attach themselves so much to this lean

Waiting for the next fat loss phase

Wanting to cut calories

Scared to eat more

Scared to allow themselves more flexibility or to focus on a new direction

The why and the how. The answers arent always known at first

You need to have a flexible identity a flexible mindset that you allow to adapt, to pivot to evolve

As you go along it

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Your balance and success criteria can evolve and change as you do and thats ok

Sometimes we don't slow down enough to realise our initial goals arent the now

We need to let go of obsessing over losing weight and what a scale says or these quantitative checkins

To allow us to understand HOW we geel, WHAT we need to focus on

How we can build a lifestyle we truly love

A live we can sustain any results we get

But also keep achieving more

Like it might be more obsessive to start with

I take that back

You may need to obsess more over prepping, planning, dealing with the discomfort of maybe eating the same thing every day and dealing with some reheated food

But it gets easier

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Most of those people didnt start that way with being so flexible either

Saying no to things means your saying yes to less desirable things you don't want

Isnt better if you choose your fuck yesses

the process so so important

You need to nail the basics and build the bricks

Going from really overweight to “lean” if you do it right in the sense that you are doing some form of resistance training

You will appear as though you lost fat and built muscle

Yeah you probs built some… but most was what that heavy body was already carrying around under it - if you really took it home with a coach, yes you will reveal a better physique but that works til it doesnt.

Instant gratification Why you will never get your goal in 12 week challenges; how a 12 or 16 week minimum is really only starting ground because of the complecxities of being human, behaviour and beliefs

---The identity of a dieter

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