39. Do You Really Need to “Test Drive” Before Marriage?

Sex And Money With Jess

Today’s topic is one that I have a lot to say about: the old saying, “You need to test drive the car before you get married.” You know, that idea that you have to “try out” sex with your partner before committing to marriage. Let’s dive into why I think this saying is, well… kind of ridiculous.

If you’re someone who’s heard this and felt pressured, know that you’re not alone. We live in a world where people have opinions about everything, especially when it comes to sex and relationships. But here’s the truth: sex is so much more than just a skill you can “test drive.” It’s a constantly evolving part of a relationship, and what works now may change as life unfolds. Just like my trusty car that’s been through a few upgrades, our bodies and desires shift as we go through life.

Throughout this episode, I share personal stories and insights from my own experiences, including how things like grief and aging can impact intimacy. At its core, the best sex in a partnership often comes from deep communication, trust, and a willingness to learn together, not from an initial “test drive.”

So, if you’re someone considering waiting until marriage or feeling pressure from those around you to “try it out” first, I’m here to remind you: you do you! Let’s throw out this outdated adage, honor what feels right for us, and embrace the evolving, beautiful journey of intimacy in whatever way feels genuine.

Thanks for joining me on this very real (and yes, a little spicy) conversation. Enjoy the episode, and let’s keep building relationships on our own terms.

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