Avoid the Trap of Weaponizing Intimacy

The Vision-Driven Marriage

In today’s episode of The Vision-Driven Marriage, Doug and Leslie Davis dive deep into an often-overlooked issue in marriage: weaponizing intimacy. When intimacy is used as a tool for control or punishment, it can cause deep wounds that weaken the foundation of trust and connection in a relationship. Leslie shares biblical insights and practical steps to help couples avoid this destructive pattern and build a marriage rooted in love, service, and reconciliation.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The meaning of weaponizing intimacy and its harmful effects on marriage.
• Three ways to avoid weaponizing intimacy and build stronger, more unified bonds.
• How open communication, service, and reconciliation are key to a healthy relationship.
• The biblical wisdom of Philippians 2:3–4 and Romans 10:12 as foundations for marriage.

Resources Mentioned:

• Philippians 2:3–4 – A call to humility and serving one another in love.
• Romans 10:12 – A reminder of God’s impartial love for all.
• Annette Chesney – Supporting women coming out of narcissistic relationships. Check out her work at AnnetteChesney.com.
• The Vision-Driven Marriage Quiz – Is your relationship affair-proof? Take the quiz at www.thevisiondrivenmarriage.com/quiz to assess how protected your marriage is from external threats.
• Episode 83: "Love, Laughter, and Legacy: Building a Strong Marriage with Latasha Kennedy" – Don’t miss our conversation with Latasha Kennedy on creating a marriage filled with love and intention. Listen to it here.

Take Action:

• Reflect on how you’re communicating and serving your spouse in intimacy. If you’ve fallen into the trap of weaponizing intimacy, start today by committing to open dialogue, mutual service, and reconciliation.
• Explore Annette Chesney’s work if you or someone you know is healing from the effects of narcissistic abuse.
• Don’t forget to share this episode with a friend who needs encouragement in their marriage!

Connect with Us:

• Website: The Vision-Driven Marriage
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• Podcast Quiz: Is your marriage affair-proof? Take the quiz at www.thevisiondrivenmarriage.com/quiz.

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INTRO/OUTRO MUSIC CREDITS
Theme music: Dead Winter
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Artists: White Bones
Composers: White Bones
Audio source: Epidemic Sound
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