The Truth: You're Actually Obsessed With Yourself, Not With Him

The Date with Confidence Podcast

EPISODE 60: The Truth: You're Actually Obsessed With Yourself, Not With Him

In this episode, I reflect on a transformative realisation about dating: sometimes, our obsession with a partner isn’t about them at all—it’s about how incredible *we* are.

After watching a TikTok that highlighted this, I began to look differently at my dating experiences. I now notice that the excitement and fulfilment I feel often comes from my own energy and personality, not necessarily the person I’m dating. I explore how this perspective can empower us to enjoy dating more fully and choose partners who truly match our worth.

Here's an overview of what we discussed:

1. Self-Worth in Dating: Understanding how our excitement often stems from our own confidence, not the other person

2. Avoiding Obsessive Attachment: Recognising when attachment is based on personal feelings, not the partner’s qualities

3. Reflecting on Personal Value: Learning to appreciate how much we contribute to enjoyable dates and moments

4. Empowered Dating Choices: Using self-awareness to avoid settling for partners who don’t truly align with our needs

Join me in this episode for a fresh look at dating through the lens of self-worth, and feel free to share if this resonates with your own experiences!

Mentioned:

The TikTok video that inspired this episode

Am I Actually Delusional? The Rollercoaster of Modern Dating

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