Ep. #9 Do You Feel You Don’t Have a Right, or You’re Not Good Enough?

Stop Self-Silencing

This feeling of inadequacy, or the nagging thought that we're somehow not qualified enough, or we aren't worthy of sharing our thoughts or opinion, is more personal to reason 3; feeling our ideas are insignificant. That’s because it’s more about our self-worth and identity rather than the external reception of our ideas.

It's where you might have valuable insights or unique experiences to share, but a voice inside your head is whispering doubts like 'Who am I to say this?' or 'They’ve been doing it for much longer than me, so what right do I have to talk about it.'
These doubts are more than just concerns about the relevance of our ideas; they are reflections of how we perceive ourselves in relation to others, especially in terms of experience, expertise, and worthiness.

This feeling isn’t just about a lack of confidence; it's deeper than that. It's about questioning our very right to speak up and be heard. It's as if there's an unspoken rule or standard that we believe we haven't met, and therefore, we sideline ourselves in conversations and discussions.
Overcoming this feeling of starts with challenging the 'Fairness Fallacy' - the belief that only the 'best' and 'most qualified' have the right to speak or be heard.
It's about recognising that everyone, including you, has the right to share their thoughts and experiences. Your perspectives are valid, not because of some external validation, but because they are uniquely yours.

Practising self-affirmation can be a really powerful tool here. Remind yourself regularly that your thoughts and opinions matter. Affirmations like 'My voice is valuable' or 'My experiences are worth sharing', can help to rewire the negative thought patterns that you have that are holding you back.

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