Forgiving Oneself is Liberating with Guest Writer Sarah Malik Sayed

Should Have Listened to My Mother Podcast

Sarah is a writer and this is the first time her work has been published in the New York Times. the link is below.

https://www.nytimes.com/2024/08/23/style/modern-love-looking-for-my-mother.html

This is an unusual love story where a Pakistani woman proposed to her lover which was culturally not the norm. They were both young and very much in love. Unfortunately, Kaukab, translated from Arabic, means "star" or "constellation" was diagnosed with Leukemia a few years after their daughter's were born. Sarah's parents went to London for a bone marrow transplant.

This was the beginning of tearing the family apart. The girls moved in with family members in Saudi Arabia, while their dad stayed in London.

Her father was distraught and couldn't even tell the girls that their mother had passed away until days later. They did not attend their mother's funeral, though they were close by. The family members blamed Sarah's father for Kaukab's death.

This and more lead to Sarah blaming herself for her mother's death. She believes that her mom was trying to teach her to let go, but either way Sarah has spent a good part of her life blaming herself for her mother's death.

Sarah has very few personal possessions to remember her mother by. She has a card that her mother wrote her when in the hospital, that she still has today. Her mother had hopes of seeing her girls again but fate had a different plan. And not too long ago, Sarah was able to bring home two embroideries that her mother had made, many years ago and they hang in Sarah's home today.

Sarah's relatives have told her, that her mother handled her illness very eloquently, she didn't give into despair and she accepted her illness and her death with grace.

My guest has plans for writing fiction, short stories, kids books and more.

TWITTER:https://x.com/SarayMaray

"Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests were open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.

Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:

SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024

“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”

Jackie Tantillo’s “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it’s clear why it’s a 2023 People’s Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.

Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers’ actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.

This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.

I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.

Gina Kunadian

"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship.

Some of my guests include Nationally and Internationally recognized authors, Journalists, Columbia University Professors, Health Practitioners, Scientists, Artists, Attorneys, Baritone Singer, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist, Activists, Freighter Sea Captain, Film Production Manager, Professor of Writing Montclair State University, Attorney and family advocate @CUNY Law; NYC First Responder/NYC Firefighter, Child and Adult Special Needs Activist, Property Manager, Chefs, Self Help Advocates, therapists and so many more talented and insightful women and men.

Jackie has worked in the broadcasting industry for over four decades. She has interviewed many fascinating people including musicians, celebrities, authors, activists, entrepreneurs, politicians and more.

A big thank you goes to Ricky Soto, NYC based Graphic Designer, who created the logo for "Should Have Listened To My Mother".

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