Episode 113: Playing the Long Game in your Freedom from the Domestic Struggle with author and speaker Tami Hackbarth

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Hello, hi! Today’s episode is part one of my interview with Tami Hackbarth a life + work coach, keynote speaker, author, podcast host and Fair Play Facilitator. Tami’s work helps women feel less like crap so they have the energy and bandwidth to create the world they want to live in. In Part 1 of our conversation we talk all about the re-balancing of domestic life as a means to find the time for self care. Tune in next week for Part 2 of the conversation where we talk more about that actual self care and how to make the most of your newfound free time!

Episode Summary

• The shocking question Tami’s boss asked her that started it all: Are you happy? Tami’s then set to work conducting a year long experiment to take care of herself and the results probably won’t surprise you but her commitment definitely will!
• The odds are we run into burnout after leaving our needs unmet - even those needs that we’re not aware of. It can be vulnerable to admit we have needs just like everybody else and it can be very difficult to ask for help to have those needs fulfilled.
• Having those needs met means we have to give up control, especially in our absence
• Tami and Erin compare notes on how it feels to parent our kids based on their gender and the expectations on us to care about their appearance accordingly]
• When we disengage from the scripts about gendered work, we set the stage for freedom for everyone in the household to let go of societal norms and pressures
• You have to start letting go of your attachment to domestic duties, relinquishing them to your kids and partner - otherwise you’ll have to do them.FOREVER.
• The hilarious conversation Tami had with a 4th grader after he told her she was “the laziest grownup he’d ever met”
• Some of this is unappealing - usually because it’s not a quick fix, even though it works!

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Episode 107: From Anxiety to Action - How to reclaim your mental headspace with guest and coach Madeline Farquharson

Episode 108: From Self-Neglect to Self-Care - Prioritizing your Needs with guest and coach Madeline Farquarson

Connect with Tami:

• Website: www.tamihackbarth.com
• Instagram: @tamihackbarth
• Free workshop! Reduce the Mental Load - https://www.tamihackbarth.com/reduce-mental-load

Connect with Erin:

• Instagram: @medium.lady
• Email: [e-mail]
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• Instagram: @mediumladyreads