What She Means When She Says She Wants “More” from the Relationship

Masculine & Feminine Dynamics

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In this episode, Lorin explains that the solution lies in both partners understanding what "more" means. If this isn’t communicated and what she wants is unarticulated and never realised, the relationship can become dysfunctional. This can draw men towards neediness which pushes their partners away.

This episode offers the opportunity to understand our own desires and paths, and is crucial listening for both men and women.

Mentioned in this episode:

Healing Your Relationship with the Masculine
A 4-week immersive program for women, starting 2nd March 2025

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What She Means When She Says She Wants “More” from the Relationship

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This episode offers the opportunity to understand our own desires and paths, and is crucial listening for both men and women.

Mentioned in this episode:

Healing Your Relationship with the Masculine
A 4-week immersive program for women, starting 2nd March 2025

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