156: How To Speak Up For Yourself (Without Being a Dick!) With Amy Green Smith

Goals With Soul

Are you a people pleaser?

I’d never really identified as one before but my guest today challenged that view. Amy Green Smith is a certified and credentialed life coach and hypnotherapist, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. Amy uses her roles as coach, writer, podcaster, and speaker to move individuals to a place of radical personal empowerment and self-worth. With acute focus on helping people “find their voice”, she is highly sought after for her uncommon style of irreverence, wisdom, and humor and has been a featured expert in Inspired Coach Magazine and on Fox 5 San Diego.

In this episode you will learn:

>> The definition of people pleasing – and the surprising reasons why you might be one!

>> Why it’s not always a bad thing - it actually fits into the responses of fight, flight, freeze or fawn

>> How to distinguish between what to battle and what to let go of – hint: you shouldn’t allow your silence to make you a liar!

>> The ways you can galvanize yourself to be bold enough to stop people pleasing!

A basic human instinct is to constantly be alert and scanning for threats constantly - another is the need to belong. People pleasing fits into this. In the early days of civilisation you had to fit in with a group in order to survive and subconsciously, our minds still recognise this.

The problems come when your people-pleasing tendencies come at a cost to you.

Amy shares practical hacks to overcome people pleasing – you don’t have to be harsh, you can still be gentle.

And speaking up doesn’t always have to be a giant conversation – it can be simple, concise and effective. It’s about boundaries and respect.

Working on these tendencies helps you have those difficult conversations – with an adult child who needs some tough talk, or an underperforming team member for instance. You can confront these issues without being confrontational.

Sometimes it’s about an open conversation and other times it’s about taking a firm, stoic stance. It depends on your boundaries and the intricacies of the topic at hand.

It’s about having grace and kindness whilst not bending.

And of course, when you’re not creating and managing your own boundaries, you’re going to stay stuck – and energetically, that just won’t work for you!

Enjoy the listen!

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You can find Amy on Instagram or her website amygreensmith.com.

To access her free eWorkbook and Workshop, click here.

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