278. When You Feel Like You're the Only One Who's Behind (with Meghan Ryan Asbury)

Crystal Paine Show

Meghan Ryan Asbury was in studio last week to record this week's episode all about the topic of her new book: You Are Not Behind: Building a Life You Love Without Having Everything You Want! We all encounter this feeling at some point in our live: the sense of inadequacy that can stem from our lives not aligning with expectations we had for where we'd be, expectations we feel like we're not living up to from others, or just the general sense that everyone else has it more together or their lives are moving along at a stronger/faster/better pace than ours.

Meghan shares her journey of writing this book during a pivotal time when her own life felt anything but perfect and where so many dreams and hopes she'd had for the future were not coming to fruition.

In this conversation, we discuss the detrimental impact of comparison and how it permeates our thoughts and influences our sense of contentment. Her insights resonate deeply, especially when she reminds us that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. We explore the importance of recognizing our unique journeys and the necessity of grieving lost hopes, which can ultimately lead us to greater healing.

Whether you’re in your twenties, thirties, forties, or beyond, this episode offers wisdom for anyone feeling behind in life. Meghan encourages us to embrace our current season, invest in community, and cultivate gratitude amidst the unknowns of the future.

In This Episode

[0:35] - I am talking today with Meghan Ryan Asbury, author of the book You Are Not Behind.

​​[1:51] - Meghan's book journey began by questioning why people feel behind.

[4:28] - I share how this book is relevant for all ages.

[6:42] - Comparison is often a root cause of feeling behind.

[9:46] - Hear how Meghan confronted her belief that obedience guarantees happiness.

[11:50] - Meghan accepts that the Bible defines good as singleness, suffering, and poverty, not the American Dream.

[13:16] - Coping mechanisms for happiness only work temporarily.

[16:41] - It's so important to allow yourself to grieve so that you can heal.

[19:37] - Meghan holds both pain and hope together, trusting God's promises despite feeling disappointed.

[22:28] - Find hope in God's promise to make all things new and comfort her pain.

[25:31] - Community, argues Meghan, helps combat feelings of being behind by fostering connection and healing.

[27:21] - Vulnerability and effort lead to meaningful connections, even in different life seasons.

[29:37] - Meghan trusts that God will provide and rejects a scarcity mindset when comparing to others.

[32:42] - Meghan reflects on past choices, trusting God's faithfulness while living fully and hoping for the future.

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