E50 Marty Vargas A Place for You

BS With Bob Schmidt

In Episode 50 I talk with Marty Vargas, Author of the book "A Place for you". We talk about his perseverance on finding his mother Rachel. We learn to look at yourself, and about overcoming obstacles, never give up and that things change.
Marty Vargas
Media Owner/ Engineer/Documentarian/Motivational Speaker/Relationship Expert.
Founder: Rescue Rachel – Deterring Human Traffic, and Homelessness.
The BS adoption podcast featuring people talking about entrepreneurship, marketing, and business this week. Taking a different look, a different tone. If you Elsa for getting closer to Christmas want to talk to a guy that I met at the publicity summit in New York City a couple weeks ago but invite Marty Vargas a conversation with Marty this week talking about how he found his mother living on the streets of Philadelphia and how he kind of pulled her back into society. It's different than our normal podcast but it's a message worth sharing. As we approach Christmas Marty, thanks for being on the podcast with me this week happened in my life began a little bit different remote control. I refound the string. The little infant sleeping with no with my homeless mother and I discovered buying an older couple the morning and no man went out to shovel the snow and found me sleeping there with my mom and eventually she gave me up several months later to that thing couple and I never knew my mom I was shipped away or I get you their doctor delaying my adoptive family went on to California and I grew up in the Bay Area and Vincenzo did not Cavalli was 21, 22 years later I returned to Philadelphia to find the heart of my moods on my mom how hard was it for you to know that you're given up by your mother grow up with a with a different family and then returned to you know that the quote the scene of the crime in order to find to see if your mom first will still live. Secondly, she still remembers you wound that that was a very dramatic experience growing up without her was nondramatic to me because the family that I was adopted in was so loving and kind. They were the only ones I knew you know is mom and dad, but when I found when I went to the car. My mother was very dramatic because my brother and my older brother. My adoptive old brother had come to visit us in California and he had a heart attack and died so we had to ship his body to the East Coast. When we did so it was then my cousin came up to me your name was Joanne. She said would you like to find your mom and I would like wishing she said she's Rachel and she lives in the streets and that night I could hardly sleep realizing the very woman that had brought me into this world was somewhere out there in the concrete jungle trying to supply and so that began the journey the emotional journey for me because up to that time, enthusiastic question and never thought about actually finding her and I didn't have that I didn't have the desire, none of that was in the course to my mind, hardly at all. When she asked that I was confronted with the reality and so that's when we began our journey did everything to your life up to that point was alive that you're living like a different living a lie even though you may not have known it, but then actually figured out, or to think about it after the fact, that very amazing question that you know I had to struggle with being adopted and I remember the day I was finally adopted in the paperwork went through. I was about 13 years of age and I remember reading 17 being adopted and rethinking not being original with my family. Kind of like even though my mom and dad J love me, though I was their very own flesh and blood and was never that feeling like you're not but you still have that feeling in some way because it windows come from other directions and I presented, but it wasn't until I discovered my mom and I had to process it and then when I finally got off the streets in class essay… Myself you know I have is closer to because you gave me up you know and then came to the point when I realized this was the very best thing because you know when I was working my documentary. In television I filling out ninth Street fair in the Italian market. Most listeners would remember Rocky running down the Italian market selling thing and fell. Philadelphia was there when my mother lived and I was feeling my documentary there and a woman came up to meet Jansson what are you doing to you making a documentary on the homeless woman. She said Rachel to call my mother's name out. I like wow my mom cheek against me find dead bodies of the children string different setting and used to find the yeah the dead body have her children that she would give birth Street and they would find her dead body and blew my mind in a car, a coincided with a newspaper article. I did find about my mother indicated she had given birth to a number of children about four or five children in the street. My mother was in the streets with 30+ years on 29 years and when reality hit me. Then I realized I was so fortunate to not have been one of those skilled right will told me he took kind of made tomato intimated that's wow God is a miracle. No kidding. Talk about you know getting that life changing moment in your life was was that it was at one of the moments that you're like this is why I'm here. It was life-changing images made me appreciate every day of my life. And then I understood that it was for the best unite for me being here is great for me to have survived what I went through with greater and then from even understand how blessed I was noted in the air rather than cursed. Want to bless it and so you know that became very interesting enough to experience the decking many years later after I was taking care of my mom and because eventually I was able to get off the streets because you want to come off the street. When I first found her losing on this romantic movie when I was searching street after street looking for my mom. I was put to hold you know medevac. I read newspaper articles written about my mother and one of the things that struck me the most is that newspaper reporter asked my mother. Do you ever get lonely. Do you ever cry and granted. At this point of my mother's life is been rate multiple times she's been beating stream. She has been dogged and she responded, I cannot cry and that's what gave me the impetus I have to find a have to let her know that there's still somebody out there that really cares no. And so I researched street after street throughout Philadelphia fell Philadelphia and eventually I came up to brought in federal which would like to know the main thoroughfare throughout the video of Philadelphia and I knocked on the large cathedral and the only an empty vehicle came back and then my cousin a good idea quickly down to the shelter she Joanne had been calling everything the shelter in town in order to find my mother so word was getting around Marty looking for Rachel and Rachel was not him. I can't say popular, but she was not unknown because she was sort of the fixtures. A homeless person and I remember standing before the large wooden door that was the last barrier between my dark and distant past, and I'm like Joanne, we gotta play Sage and we knock loudly in a few minutes. The door banged open in this young black woman was standing near Yasser Rachel and she recognized me she knew my mother and she said love is patient, you know that Philadelphia accent and we were led down the long cement corridor to a gymnasium in the gymnasium was totally black and only stage in the gymnasium was well lit and I met up little lady right met up into the gymnasium stage and Joanne took my hand and took my mother's hands and praying this is your son, Marty Marty this is your mother in that moment that was like wow you know the just like blew my mind. You know, and I got up I hugged her I gave her a kiss. I tried to make her feel comfortable. She only responded to me with confinement. Unbelieving J and so that night I just search for hours trying to find why did you ever become homeless without asking that question shipped and it was just such a moving experience in the very next day, and which was most mind blowing and called experience the very next day I had Daschle? I said mom I want to know who my daddy and she looked and she said how is man and I talked to Michael Lemaire is my brother, my adopted brother that I just buried regularly behind. That's why we keep you know, we buried him and cheer start coming down her cheek and little doll came to realize what was happening here is that my adoptive brother was not my you know legal only legal brother. He was actually my biological father. And so the older couple that found me sleeping in the snow that older couple were actually my real grandparents today. Did they know that note they didn't know that until at age 13 when that time I mentioned earlier that I resented being adopted and the people working through the investigation of my life and everything else with people working on the type stuff and the story came out that told me, but they knew as you're growing up so your brother actually knew that he was your father, even though it is your brother yeah yeah you and them. My you know my adoptive brother was my real biological father is something I can in a country song in their amino. I'm not trying to make it at all, but you don't mean it sounds it sounds unbelievable that I know is unbelievable in my grandparents in no until I was 13 years old when the good doctor went all the way through and never told me go from age 13 to age 21, 22, this is a total secret in all my love and then what happens. I went back to California but I couldn't rest rest and to try to get my mother off the streets. I returned back to Philadelphia now factor took about five trips from California to Philadelphia, noted the rescue my mom from off the street. It is when I went the second time I saw her as she really was, you