A Fraternity of Excellence with Zac Small

2 Cent Dad Podcast

Zac Small runs a mastermind group for men called Fraternity of Excellence. He is helping men become the best versions of themselves and lead their family well. He shares a bit about what the group is and why it is needed.

Where To Find Zac
Fraternity of Excellence - https://fraternityofexcellence.com/
Blog - https://thefamilyalpha.com/
Twitter - https://twitter.com/ZacSmall_

Zac: [00:00:00] [00:00:00] I would rather be successful than appear to be successful. I'd rather just have a happy life, a connected family and all these things. And to your point on working on yourself, that's where it all starts.

you can't fully enjoy your life. If you're physically incapable of it, going out and enjoying your life. if you can't hike a mountain, you'll never see the tops of mountains. You'll never see that view. You'll never earn that with your children. if you always tell them, Hey, you go train for your sport and you eat right.

And you read your books, but you're the father. And you're sitting there not reading, always on your phone, always playing games on your phone or playing video games on television. And you're eating crap while your children, they follow your example, not your advice. They're going to follow what it is you do.

Mike: [00:00:43] Are you living up to your full potential? Do you have people and other men around you that are calling you to a higher standard and holding you accountable? The answer is probably no, because it's pretty rare in the world today. so today I had on a [00:01:00] podcast Zak's small who runs an online group, called the fraternity of excellence. And he's aiming to do exactly that a group of men to hold each other accountable, call each other to a higher standard so that they can be.

The husbands they need to be. The dads they need to be and the members of the community that they need to be. And it was a great conversation with Zack and to hear about what they're doing over at fraternity of excellence. So let's jump into the interview with Zack.

on the podcast this morning, we have Zach small and I wanted to have Zach on cause he is a man's man and he's a dad as well, but runs a site called fraternity of excellence, which is a fraternity for dads men. really just encouraging them to live their best.

most, most potential, is what I say. And uniting dads and men to be real, authentic men. And so Zach, thanks for being on the podcast.

Zac: [00:01:56] Thank you for having me. I appreciate it, Mike.

Mike: [00:01:58] Yeah. Hey man, I, maybe we should just start [00:02:00] with excellent. So I know you do a lot of writing, you do podcasting as well.

but just tell us a little bit about what fraternity of excellence is and how it came

Zac: [00:02:08] to be. So what's really cool is I was on FOS our inner communication channel right before we kick this off. And one of the guys put a reminder out that today's our thousandth day since we kicked it off. So we've been in day and we've been in operation for 1000 days today.

Wow. That is awesome. So a thousand days ago we had just finished up a 31 DTM campaign. I wrote a book called 31 days to masculinity. And I started doing these community campaigns where we all come together. And for 31 days we'd focus on just stripping everything down and rebuilding it back up as men.

And at the end of that, I was like, I want to keep this going. And one of the men inside there was Craig James for masculine by design.com. And he's I love this. He's and I can do it. I can build this out. I was like, dude, let's go in on it together. So we together co-founded fraternity of excellence and it is a long form permanent version of what 31 DTM is about.

It [00:03:00] is every day going in, you're mixing up with other men on a mission. you're joining, there are subject matter experts in every field. So there are guys who are there to, they want to improve their business skills. there are men inside looking to improve their family skills and want to be better fathers.

just last night we had to zoom in for an hour and a half. I was talking to a bunch of other gentlemen about being a better dad. I'm swapping notes and issues I've been having with Corona issues they've been having, how can we work together to fix that? And it's just the entire group builds itself up.

our momentum is generated within, we don't need exterior. So all the guys inside work with one another to improve and it's working.

Mike: [00:03:34] That's awesome. So tell me about what, the progress people are finding that they're making. we talked about like building just products in general, like people are like, they're wanting to make progress when they buy a product or something.

And tell me about. How people are like, Hey, I've looked for this other places or cause you're obviously solving a problem that in the world is that, men are not getting right. There's a, there's that fraternity aspect. That group dynamic the [00:04:00] trust. If you will, that people are, we're not getting other places.

And they're saying, Hey, I want to unite myself with people that have a like mindedness and Hey are focused on excellence. So tell me about like maybe some of the success stories people have had. As a result of it, or, where they say, Hey, I looked at it, I looked for this other places.

I couldn't find it. So

Zac: [00:04:19] one of the best examples I give and you've probably experienced, this is men will go out and they're like, all right, I want to start working out. I want to get healthy. I want my marriage. We're just, co-parenting, we're just existing together. And this isn't what I was promised.

And this isn't the best I think is out there. And they start to that's where the seed kind of starts. And then they go out and they, their kids' sports teams, like none of the other day, I really want to work out. They don't ever want to talk about anything else. The, of family guy or the NFL, that's pretty much, the topics of discussion or when they get drunk, they'll get drunk and they'll have these great plans.

We're going to build this, bro. And we're going to go out there and going to make some money. And we're going to, we're going to, we're going to kick it off. And then the next morning they wake up, hung over and nothing ever comes of it. They [00:05:00] start clicking around and they'll find my work.

So I [e-mail]. That's where my personal writings go. They'll find that. And then they'll go through the links and they'll join and our stories and the best successes are so across the board, that'll blow your mind. Like some men will come in and their children and them simply do not like one another.

And their success story is that they were able to fix themselves and therefore form a better relationship with their child. And all of a sudden, they're not yelling as much. They've stopped with the spankings and now they're white if that's getting fixed. So not only are they fixing the relationship with the child, they're fixing the relationship with the other person in their child's life, the wife, or the mother of the child, they're not so hypercritical, they just start working on themselves.

They start finding peace in life. One of the often unmentioned successes guys have is that we do and what you and I are doing right now, you're running a podcast. I have a podcast. We can sit and talk to pretty much anybody about pretty...