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Reconnected Marriage Partners | Communicate Effectively, Sexual Intimacy, Expectations, Quality Time, Resolving Conflicts

Dr. Ebun and David Haastrup | Christian Marriage Coaches & Couple Connection Strategists

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Are you feeling distant from your spouse while living under the same roof? Frustrated about the increasing misunderstandings or tension in your marriage? Do you have a longing desire to feel heard & understood but can’t seem to get through to your spouse? Wish you spent more time connecting with your spouse instead of engaging in arguments that drain your energy? If you can relate, you’re not alone. Building a thriving marriage in these modern times takes hard work. When you add the responsi ...
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***Top 1.5% Global Podcast*** Dear Betrayed, Are you in shock? Confused, devastated, hurt, angry and feeling like you are not enough? Do you feel like it must be your fault, like you should have somehow seen the signs? Are you grieving the death of the marriage you thought you had? Dear Betrayer, Have you been believing the lie that if people knew what was really in your heart and mind, they would turn their back on you? Have you been convinced that your wife and family would leave you and y ...
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Hi friend! Some persons get into marriage with certain expectations and because these expectations do not hold true, they bring about frustrations. This can impact a marriage negatively if not addressed. In this episode, you will discover 5 marriage myths that could hurt the relationship between spouses if these beliefs continue to be embraced. Wan…
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Making and apology to our betrayed spouse is one of the more important facets of our recovery process. However, have you had the experience when making an apology to your spouse, it seemed to cause more damage than give relief? So, what is the secret to a good apology and how can it be done with respect and honesty that can lead to true intimacy. S…
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Hi friend! Have you ever wondered if there was a way to resolve conflicts or disagreements faster when they show up in marriage? If so, this is an episode you do not want to miss. In this episode, you will discover what it means to be a H.O.T Spouse and how this approach can help you as you navigate those tough conversations in marriage during conf…
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Have you ever lost something or had something taken away from you and you deeply felt the loss? Or perhaps you gave something precious away that you now regret or grieve and want to get it back. Would you be willing to travel a potentially painful path to have your loss restored? The path of redemption can be challenging at best and painful at its …
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Hi friend! Are you feeling frustrated about the increasing misunderstandings in your marriage pulling you apart from each other? If so, you're not alone. In this episode, I will be sharing 3 possible reasons that could be at play here and what to do to change the narrative in your relationship. Alright, let's dig in! Interested in coaching? 2 FREE …
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On this show, we have often talked about forgiveness - the need for extending forgiveness and how to walk out forgiveness. It has been in the context of forgiving your spouse for sexual betrayal, but what about the other woman? Or women? There are many different scenarios and every marriage has a unique story of brokenness. But there is a common th…
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Hi friend! Are you struggling in your marriage? Are you feeling frustrated about the increasing tension in your relationship? Do you desire to grow closer as an intimate couple while experiencing more peace, harmony, and unity in your home? If this describes your current experience, you're not alone. This episode was created just for you...to encou…
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Have you ever found yourself in a situation that totally surprised you, leaving you unsure of how to react? It happens to all of us! When we’re on the journey to recovering from sex addiction, those unexpected moments can be particularly challenging. It’s important to be aware and not let our guard down, as staying vigilant plays a crucial role in …
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Hi friend, We all know too well that when we have done something for so long we can become bored with it and begin to take it for granted. Interestingly, we treat our marriages and relationships this way. But what happens if your spouse refuses to upgrade? Or when you feel they are not meeting your expectations? Is there another approach you could …
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When you hear the statement, "I do not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it". What thoughts and/or emotions surface immediately? Our experience has shown us that the initial reaction from a betrayed spouse will likely differ from that of the one who has broken faith. The former will react in a posture of, "You better regret your past!". …
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Hi friend! One way to connect with your spouse is by being honest with them about how you’re feeling and how you’re really doing. This could begin with answering one question. This involves vulnerability and here is the honest truth: You can't have a great emotional connection without vulnerability. So, as you tune in to listen to this episode, I w…
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Have you ever wondered how to hear God speaking to you? When we have deep wounds such as betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues, we can feel desperate to hear the voice of God. We want him to tell us what to do to get relief from the ever-present pain and anxiety we are experiencing to find freedom and healing. Today we are so excited to share…
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Hi friend! Wondering if a married couple needs a joint bank account for a strong and successful marriage? Then, get ready to tune in to listen to this episode as I address one of the questions that come up in marriage and money conversations. We pray this episode blesses you:) Any information, commentary, recommendations or statements of opinion pr…
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If you are listening to our podcast on a regular basis, and we hope you are, you are likely working hard to stay married after porn-fueled infidelity. One challenging area that needs to be addressed in the recovery process is shame and guilt. Many times, shame and guilt are used interchangeably as though they are the same. Do you know there’s a dif…
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Hi friend! Have you ever wondered, “How can I have more energy (and time) to spend with my spouse?” In other words, “What are some things I can do to achieve this?" If so, then, this episode for you. In this episode, we are going to reveal 3 tried & tested ways to have more energy (and time) to build connection in your marriage. So, if you desire t…
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We know our story of sexual betrayal and recovery is not the only one out there, so we are excited to share with you a compelling conversation we had with Steve Shields from the Unashamed Unafraid podcast. He tells his unique and very personal story of how a Christian man trapped in porn addiction was able to come to terms with his powerlessness, a…
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Hi friend! Intimacy in marriage is important because the more intimate we are, the closer and more connected we feel as a couple. When we feel connected as a couple, it benefits us not only as a couple but as individuals too. For example, we work better together as members of the same team rather than engage in conflicts that sap the little time an…
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We had planned to update and replay episodes all this month to help us take things a little slower for our anniversary. Well, we got of our 2 most popular shows out, but this week we decided to share some new content with you. We want to give some encouragement and a little guidance to those of you who are struggling in the storm of your broken mar…
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Hi friend! We cannot tell you that you will never experience conflict in marriage but what we can tell you is that if you know how to manage conflict or disagreements better, it will benefit your marriage. This will save you more time and energy not just in the present moment but also in the long run. This is why in this episode, I will be sharing …
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It's been almost a year and a half since we first told our stories of sexual addiction and betrayal on our podcast. A lot has happened since then! We are so very grateful for the recovery, healing, and growth that both of us have experienced since D-Day in 2018. It has been due to God's help, tons of hard work on our part, and a great support commu…
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Hi friend! What do you do when you have different needs in marriage simultaneously? For example, when your spouse wants to engage in a deep conversation with you and you want to have sex...both happening around the same time. How can we navigate this scenario especially when the end goal is to build connection and improve intimacy in marriage? If t…
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September is our anniversary month and we're celebrating by taking a break from creating new episodes this month, but rather updating and replaying a few of our most popular episodes. Today we are revisiting Episode #2 Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me, where Emily bares her soul to tell the story of Johnny's marital infidelity* fueled by pornograp…
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Hi friend, Have you ever wondered or been curious about how to improve communication in your marriage? If so, you're not alone. One of the ways we have strengthened our marriage and grown together as a team has involved communicating better with each other. The way we communicate or the manner in which we communicate with our spouses can either str…
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Wives, do you have a desire for your husband to lead you and your family spiritually? Of course! Husbands, are you at a loss for what that looks like and how you can show up for your wife in this area? Yeah, probably. Unfortunately, in many Christian marriages, this is often a reality. A wife will take up the responsibility of being the spiritual h…
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Hi friend! It is no longer news that building a thriving marriage takes hard work. When we think about investing in our marriages, what often comes to mind are actionable tips to deepen connection, grow stronger in marriage and stay connected as a couple. But over the years, we’ve realized that sometimes, in order to achieve the deeper connection a…
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Wives, are you trying to communicate your feelings to your husband and somehow it always ends up being about him. Are just not feeling seen, heard and validated? Men, is your wife explaining to you how she feels or coming at you with big emotions and you find yourself at a loss of how to respond? This can happen in any marriage, but when sexual bet…
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Hi friend! We live in a global village. We don’t have to live in the same neighborhood to know about the life of another person living in another neighborhood on another continent. Enter the world of technology & the internet. A world where you see beautiful pictures and videos of couples and individuals... Depending on the current state of your ma…
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How much do you value keeping your word? And how does it make you feel when someone doesn't keep their word? For a betrayed wife, it becomes even more important that her recovering husband keep his word. This new display of reliability provides the safety and security that she desperately needs in a time of confusion and broken trust. When he makes…
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Hi friend! We live in a global village. We don’t have to live in the same neighborhood to know about the life of another person living in another neighborhood on another continent. Enter the world of technology & the internet. A world where you see beautiful pictures and videos of couples and individuals... Depending on the current state of your ma…
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We all have priorities, whether we make them intentionally or they exist by default. At times our priorities can be misguided and cause pain for ourselves and for others. We also understand that priorities are important and it’s necessary to have them in the right order. And for a betrayed wife, it’s imperative to know that she is a priority to her…
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Hi friend! We often hear that it takes two committed individuals to make a marriage work but what if we told you that it takes one courageous spouse willing to make the move towards progress to begin this process. Being a courageous spouse means choosing to partner with God and making courageous moves needed for a more loving & connected marriage…e…
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Following the revelation of sexual betrayal, a couple must decide whether to stay together or not. Choosing to stay married initiates a complex journey of recovery and healing, filled with challenges and triumphs. However, the journey may be prolonged due to the betrayer's lack of understanding the needs of the betrayed. Initially, the focus is on …
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Hi friend! In the early years of marriage, engaging in meaningful conversations with our spouses boosts connection and draws us closer to each other. Over the years, these conversations can begin to fade, especially when most of our communication become centered around the running of the household, activities the kids have to attend and other funct…
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Has the reality of porn-fueled infidelity in your marriage come to light? Have you both decided to stay together and want to do your part to save your marriage? Husband, have you decided to go all in on making it right? Are willing to do whatever it takes to recover from the devastating consequences of your bad decisions, but moving forward in your…
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Hi friend! Have you ever been stressed, struggled to concentrate… been less patient with your spouse and your kids? Are you feeling tense, frustrated, and upset at things that would normally not make you feel upset? Then, you may need a particular kind of care: Self-Care. As a couple, and especially parents living abroad, when our schedules are fil…
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It wasn’t until I stopped using pornography altogether and the fog lifted that I learned just how much effect it had had on my brain. The further I got away from the porn and the more days of sobriety I achieved, I found that I was able to think more clearly and process the difficult truth of my sex-addiction. Understanding porn’s effect on my brai…
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Hi friend! Does this sound familiar? You don’t like sweeping things under the carpet. This means that when an issue arises in your marriage, you like to resolve it and settle the issue as quickly as possible. However, you've noticed that when you try to express yourself or communicate your thoughts to your spouse, it seems like your spouse does not…
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How was your week? Did it go as planned? This week, a verse really hit home for us in a big way... We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps. Proverbs 16:9 Imagine this - just as we were about to hit the button to record today’s podcast episode, a sudden interruption caught us off guard. Johnny received a private message that sparked…
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Hi friend!**Anniversary Giveaway sign up details below** Guess what! It is our 14th year wedding anniversary week and we are so glad for how far God has seen us through on this journey. You see…to be honest, it has not been all rosy. We’ve faced challenges and transitions over the course of the years and we are happy that we are still here together…
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After discovering your spouse had betrayed you sexually, what was your initial reaction? We bet it wasn’t joy. We know that there are many volatile emotions that come on the heels of that shocking and devastating news - among them pain, anger, and confusion. As you try to make sense of the senseless in your new unwanted reality, you may find yourse…
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Hi friend! Do you love your wife but you’re feeling frustrated about your married sex life? Or perhaps when it comes to sex, it seems to be a major source of conflict in your marriage? You wish to experience more physical connection with your spouse and increase sexual intimacy in your marriage so you can feel closer to your wife but it seems like …
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Many of us have heard the phrase “Freedom Isn’t Free” and if you have not heard it, you likely understand the idea behind it knowing that in order to gain freedom of any kind some form of sacrifice needs to be made. And sacrifices are not called sacrifices because they are easy. Are you feeling like you’re trapped in a never-ending cycle of anger, …
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Hi friend! Summer is here and people are camping, getting away to exotic places, traveling and so on. Maybe you've discovered that going on a couples getaway is not one of your plans this summer but you also want to strengthen the bond and connection in your marriage. Guess what! You don't necessarily need to get away to achieve the deeper connecti…
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The day you never imagined you’d ever live to see has come and gone; D-Day. You have discovered sexual betrayal in your marriage. Whether you found out or your spouse confessed, you can’t believe that this has happened. You may be asking yourself, Is my marriage over? Is it worth saving? Is it possible to move forward? Today we are going to answer …
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Hi friend! As spouses and individuals, we want to feel seen in our marriages. When it seems like our spouses are not paying attention to us the way we desire, or feel like we’re being taken for granted, disconnection and loneliness could begin to build up in marriage. The reality is that you may be doing things together and running a household but …
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Do you ever stop and wonder why? Why did this happen? Have you lamented, “Can anything good ever come of it?” When the discovery of sexual betrayal threatens to destroy your marriage, you may think you won’t survive it. Then, if you have made the choice to stay and do the hard work of recovery, you start to see God working in your life and marriage…
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Hi friend! When we get married and over the years, we have certain expectations in marriage. However, when these expectations are not met in marriage or our spouses do not meet these expectations, we can feel disappointed. We've come to realize that the way we deal with unmet expectations in our marriages can either draw us farther apart from our p…
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What is isolation, and where does it truly begin? Imagine a lone animal in the wild, separated from its herd. We've all seen those heart-wrenching documentary scenes where isolation turns them into easy prey. Nature's example is a powerful reminder of a harsh reality: when we isolate ourselves from our community, we become vulnerable to the schemes…
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Hi friend! Over the years, we've come to realize that though we love each other, when conflict occurs or when we want to express ourselves to our partners, we may end up creating more distance between us instead of feeling heard in the process. One reason for this could be as a result of how we communicate our concerns or express our frustrations w…
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As a recovering sex-addict, I now find comfort in knowing that my addiction was real and that there is hope through recovery that I will not have to live the rest of my life as a “dis-integrated” man, always trying to hide myself from others based on a lie that if they really knew what I was doing, they would reject me. But I didn’t always understa…
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