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Heal from Infidelity is a podcast dedicated to teaching women how to heal their lives from the inside out after betrayal in their marriages. Life Coach Andrea Giles combines her own personal experience and coaching wisdom to help women move past their biggest hurdles of learning to trust themselves (and others) again. She will teach you how to create a life you never dreamed possible. You’ll be amazed at what you are capable of when you learn how to powerfully help yourself. For more informa ...
In this podcast Brad & Morgan Robinson outline everything you need to know to heal after infidelity has wrecked your relationship. If you want to heal after betrayal - whether you had an affair or multiple affairs or it was your partner who hurt you - this podcast is for you! Each episode has a free download available at healingbrokentrust.com so you can work together to fully heal or you can work alone. Either way you'll experience transformation! Brad is a nationally recognized affair reco ...
Do you know who you are? When is the last time you answered that question? Most of us go through life thinking that who we are is what others define us to be. Knowing ourselves is the most important work we will ever do. The more we learn who we are, both strengths and weaknesses, the more we are able to accept all of us and challenge ourselves to …
Most of us don’t know how to feel. We find all kinds of creative ways to block our emotions, mostly because we weren’t taught how to feel, or were shut down when we did express a feeling. In this episode, guest Sariah Bastian will share her story of going from years of unhealthy marriages and being cut off from herself to becoming an expert in find…
We all deal with problems in different ways, but attachment theory can shed some light on why you do the things you do, and why infidelity has affected you in the way that it has. In this episode, you’ll learn what attachment theory is and the three different types of attachment. You’ll also learn how to develop into the kind of attachment that wil…
If you listen to podcasts and read self-help books, you have probably heard the terms “abundance mindset” and “scarcity mindset.” However, in this episode I will be talking about each of those things and how they pertain to you and your life. There are four areas where we experience abundance and scarcity (time, money, relationships and health). Wh…
To truly move forward from infidelity, internal changes need to be made. When we change on the inside, it becomes impossible to be the same as we were on the outside. It is very possible that our changes become uncomfortable for others to be around, which can make us second guess ourselves and our growth. In this episode, you’ll hear about 3 differ…
Most of us don't look forward to pain. We often resist it, run away from it, or go into painful experiences with dread and fear. In this episode, I’ll shed some light on how our most painful moments can become the most useful, and even sacred experiences we draw from. Whether it is emotional or physical pain, we can use the power of our minds to no…
As humans, we love certainty. We want to know all the details of exactly how things are going to transpire. Because we are not always privy to that information, we tend to talk ourselves out of goals, desires and dreams. What if the “how” is none of our business? Are you willing to release yourself from needing to know all the details? In this epis…
It makes perfect sense that our brains scan for things we know. But it can be very misleading. All the best things are in front of us. When we look to the past, we miss out on the opportunity to create the life we want. We have so much capacity to grow, to become, to create. But if we don’t know how to envision it and go after it, we fall back into…
Regret is an emotion that we all feel, but that we will do almost anything to avoid. The fear of regret can keep us stalled out, not taking the actions that will create the life we want. In this episode, you’ll learn why you don’t need to be afraid of regret. You’ll understand how regret can be both useful and harmful, and how to leverage it for yo…
Who are you? What do you think of yourself? When is the last time you really asked yourself those questions? Where do you go for the answers? Your own thoughts or what you think others believe of you? Most of us look outside ourselves to determine our self-esteem and self worth. It then becomes a moving target - as long as people tell us what we wa…
When life throws us unexpected trials and curve balls, it can be easy to slip into doubt and fear. We can forget the hard-won lessons we have learned, become overwhelmed and lose sight of who we are and where we are going. In this episode, I’ll share five things that I know for sure. These five things have helped me throughout my life to navigate t…
Do you ever cringe when you hear that someone is being “such a victim”? We often carry such harsh judgement around this way of being, although most of us slip into it throughout our lives. In this episode, I’ll explain what victim mentality really is and all the various ways it shows up. It can be sneaky and seem very justified, but in letting it s…
Do you know what your values are or why they matter? We often hear of companies having values but skim over the importance of knowing and living by our own. In this episode, we’re going to dive in to what values are and how they can help guide decisions, know what to say yes and no to, and set parameters around where you will let your mind wander t…
Pain is a natural part of life. We all experience loss, grief, and transitions. Suffering, however, is optional. In this episode you’ll learn the difference between the natural pain that comes with life events, and suffering that comes from our thoughts about those events. A great predictor of the experience of one’s life is how well they learn to …
Boundaries are often misunderstood. Many view them as a means to control another person, a way to gain power over someone, or as something that will hurt the relationship. The truth is that a properly set boundary invites intimacy and trust. In this episode, I will be clearing up exactly what a boundary is, and what it isn’t. You will understand: H…
Forgiveness can be a touchy subject. Why should we forgive someone who has caused us so much pain? I get it. In this episode, I’ll shed some light on how forgiveness is not actually for them- it is for you. I’ll go over what forgiveness is, and what it isn’t. Some of the ideas people believe about forgiveness are faulty and create additional pain. …
Marriages can survive infidelity. But can the couple really thrive? This is a question I get asked a lot, and in this episode you’ll understand why the answer is a resounding YES! Rebuilding a marriage after infidelity requires some specific tools and mindset shifts. It requires resiliency, curiosity, and a determination to change the narrative sur…
Pornography in marriages can feel threatening, shameful and impossible to overcome. In today’s episode, guests Lindsay and Danny Poelman share their story of overcoming the grip of pornography and creating a marriage much stronger than the one they had before. For so many, porn use can feel crippling. Many men (and women) feel intense shame around …
Frequently called “the green-eyed monster,” jealousy is an emotion we don’t often want to admit experiencing. We judge ourselves for feeling it, as we wonder what is wrong with us, and wind up in all kinds of painful mind drama. After experiencing infidelity, jealousy can feel like a constant companion. Those pesky intrusive thoughts that creep in?…
Most of us have been conditioned our entire lives with the messaging that we should just be happy and filled with pleasure at all times. When we don’t feel happy all the time, we avoid the negative emotion by buffering from what is actually real. In this episode, you’ll learn the real reasons why you buffer, and what it is costing you. When we buff…
Perfection is a myth, yet so many of us think that we should be perfect to be acceptable and loveable. We can easily fall into being over-achievers or under-achievers, both as veils to hide our perceived insecurities and flaws. This kind of thinking stifles our own development, and keeps us from developing real, vulnerable relationships with others…
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When life doesn’t go the way we thought it would, it can be easy to blame God. Sometimes in our darkest moments we can wonder if He abandoned us. In this episode, guest David Butler and I will be discussing ways to cope with this painful experience. David Butler is a best-selling author, co-host of the acclaimed “Don’t Miss This” podcast, and educa…
In this episode, I’ll be diving into why it is worth leaning into the “cognitive dissonance,” or the space in between black and white where things feel a little more fuzzy. It is in this space that we grow. We try on new ideas, understand others on a deeper level, and create a safe place for ourselves, even when we don’t have all the answers. Even …
Thoughts create our feelings, but feelings are the fuel that create our experience with life. When we learn to leverage the power of feelings, there is nothing you are unwilling to do, because you will be willing to feel any emotion in service of the result you want most. In this episode, you will learn specific tools that will help you create the …
When faced with an uncomfortable situation, our natural tendency is to get out as quickly as possible. Sometimes we physically or emotionally check out in an attempt to avoid pain. In today’s episode, you’ll learn why your greatest growth comes from increasing your tolerance to discomfort - not avoiding it altogether. By paying attention to what we…
When faced with decisions, our brains automatically point out all the things we don’t know, all the reasons it won’t work, and why we should be afraid. In this podcast, you’ll learn why starting with what you do know will help you solve what you don’t. For as long as humans have existed, our primal response to any kind of threat or danger is to get…
When it comes to healing from infidelity, acceptance is key to moving forward. This does not mean agreeing with it, liking it or not being sad about it. Acceptance means acknowledging that it happened instead of arguing with it. When I first start working with new clients, they generally switch back and forth between making themselves wrong for the…
If you’ve been listening to the podcast for awhile, you know how much I talk about the growth that can happen following a life-changing (and un-asked for) event. In this episode, I talk with my first podcast guest, Master Coach Krista St-Germain, all about post traumatic growth. Krista is very familiar with grief, loss and having plans change. In t…
For most of us, being wrong feels like a threat. If we are wrong, what does it mean about us, our judgement, and our ability to make wise choices in the future? In this episode, you’ll learn why it’s actually good news that you could be wrong. When we give ourselves permission to be wrong about our assumptions of ourselves and others, it makes spac…
It’s the beginning of a New Year, and for many of us it means setting goals for 2021. Statistically, even the most well-intentioned goals often fizzle out and we end up feeling like we failed. Today, you’ll learn how to make goals that actually stick. Most of us have been taught to go after goals that scare us, but our brains are naturally inclined…
All of us have days when we may feel anxious anticipation, but sometimes those days can become more frequent after infidelity, divorce, or other life-changing events. This episode will dive into how to prepare for hard days. Whether it is a custody situation, an anniversary, or being around people who may ask tough questions, it is possible to not …
On last week’s podcast, you learned about the different kinds of trust and how to build trust in yourself. In this episode, you’ll learn some of the pitfalls to building trust and what you can do to create a more trusting environment for yourself and others. You’ll learn how we can mis-read disappointment as a betrayal, and why it is important to l…
One of the most common questions after experiencing infidelity is, “Can I ever trust again?” In this episode, we’ll explore different kinds of trust and how to build the most important kind of trust, a trust in yourself. When faced with infidelity, the foundation of trust can be broken, and it takes time to repair it. In this episode, you’ll learn …
You may have heard that journaling can be a healing process, but there are benefits you may never have thought about. In addition to being a healing tool to our physical bodies, journaling is proven to be an emotional regulator and healer as well. In this episode, I will share how impactful journaling has been for me, how to journal, and why I enco…
Healing from infidelity can seem so overwhelming, undefined and unattainable. In this episode, I’ll share 6 things that help in the process of healing. In a simple online search, you can find many varying opinions about how healing actually happens after infidelity. Can it actually be done? Yes. Listen to understand why some traditional views on he…
Do you ever wonder if you can just feel "good"? In this episode, you'll learn why we aren't programmed to feel good all the time, and why it's actually a positive thing. Most of us spend our life feeling just a few main emotions, and wonder why we keep getting the same results. When you learn that life is best when we allow both the positive and th…
If I were to ask you who you are, you would probably answer with some information from your past. Most of us go through life not really challenging our stories - we believe them as fact. More information at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/Andrea Giles
Most of us have long, detailed “scripts” of how others should behave, and when they don’t, we get upset. We expect others to follow the script, even if they don’t know it exists. This is not only frustrating for the people in our lives, but very frustrating for ourselves because of what we make it mean that they didn’t do what we wanted them to do.…
Join me on this podcast to learn what keeps us from telling the hard truth in conversations, and why it is actually not only hurting you, but the relationship itself. How many times have you avoided a conversation because you know it may get tense and uncomfortable? In this podcast I’ll teach you why that tension is actually not a problem, and how …
In this episode, I'll help you identify if you're a people pleaser, why you do it, how it is harming you, and what to do about it. Many of us have false beliefs that we have to say yes to everything, make everyone happy, and not let anyone down, ever. This of course creates so much pressure. And in the end, is not only exhausting, but deep down we …
You've probably heard that what you think about matters, but the questions is- HOW do you actually change your own thoughts? Maybe you have tried positive affirmations, read books about changing your thoughts and wondered why nothing has actually changed. That is because the actual process of how to change the pathways in your brain are not readily…
Do you know what it's like to feel "triggered?" In this episode I'll talk about why we stay triggered, and how to create safety within ourselves to successfully move forward with our lives. After experiencing a betrayal, our safety can feel compromised, causing us to feel perpetually "stuck" in a pattern of flight, fight or freeze. Although this pr…
Many of us carry around painful stories about divorce and what it means about us to make that choice (or for someone else to choose it for us). Whether you are married or single, listen to uncover what stories you carry about divorce and how to let them go. When I first got divorced, I was so embarrassed to say it out loud because I thought it mean…
When faced with tough decisions, it can be so hard to make a powerful choice because we so want to know how it will turn out. In this episode, I'll share my own experience with letting go of the outcome and how it changed the course of my life. I'll share 3 examples of how doing what I felt was the best (albeit hard) decision opened the door for ev…
Have you ever stayed in a situation you don't love because you're so afraid of what the alternative might be? In this podcast, I'll teach you why planning out Plan B actually sets you free. If we don't really lean into the fear, pain, and discomfort of a new plan, we aren't fully choosing the one we are in. Listen to learn how stretching your brain…
A crucial part to healing and moving forward is learning to acknowledge and process your own feelings. In this episode, you'll learn what to avoid, and how to allow yourself to feel your feelings. Many of us have never learned how to allow our feelings, and have stuffed them down, hidden from them, and punished ourselves for having the feelings we …
Most of us have learned to talk ourselves out of what we want, or have grown so accustomed to paying attention to what everyone wants that we have no idea what we want. In this episode, you'll learn why what you want really, really matters. Listen to find out why the things you want serve as guideposts along your journey of who you are becoming. Yo…
You've heard that your thoughts matter, but maybe you don't quite know how your thoughts are affecting you, or how to change them. In this episode, you'll learn the science behind thoughts and how they are directly creating results in your life. Even when life hands us circumstances that we struggle with, we still have so much more power than we kn…
One of the most common things I hear from my clients is that they don’t know what to do. This applies to not only the big questions, but the little ones as well. In this episode, I’ll teach a 3-step plan to making decisions. Once you understand how, you can apply this process to any decision you need to make in your life (and we make a lot of them …
Do you ever wonder what is wrong with you? You’ve had your trust broken, yet you are left feeling terrible like it was somehow your fault. You know something has got to give, you build up your courage, but end up turning back into familiar patterns. I have great news for you… you are normal. You are not broken. Your brain is doing exactly what it’s…
