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Pastors on Porn is a podcast providing hope, healing and help for those who know the call of God on their lives but also struggle with compulsive sexual behaviors
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An actual play podcast focused on exploring the intersections between gender, sexuality, and mental health.
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Today Vern explores how 2 words - delight and desire can go a long way in giving us immunity to the outside pull of porn and other distractions! If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you are looking for more free resources you ca…
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This last Sunday Vern spoke on Sunday morning on how men can move from being an *ss to being good and safe men - something women, our churches and our communities desperately need more of. If you are looking for a safe person to talk about your Sexual struggles - Vern gets it - as a Pastor for 30 years Vern has battled porn as a pastor and didn't h…
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Have you ever had God tell you to quit your grovelling? Today Vern explores a bible story where that happens and relates it to our recovery walk. If you are looking for a safe place to talk to regarding your struggles with porn - Vern has walked that struggle and would love to share his hope with you. His email is bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com…
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In this episode Vern answers the question - what is the hardest sermon you'll ever give? I truly believe this episode is crucial to both listen to and keep in your constant awareness as a pastor. If it helpful for you - pass it on! If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of …
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As I talk and work with pastors I have noticed that there are 3 seasons of vulnearabilitywhere patterns of sexual brokenness seem to emerge in our lives. In this episode I lay out those seasons and take the approach to be fore-warned is to be for-armed! If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles -…
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This last Sunday Vern spoke at church regarding the spiritual step of self examiniation and confession. As pastors struggling with our sexual brokenness - it provides a crucial "powerpoint" that is available to us as we see to walk toward a life of healing and wholeness. If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your …
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Most of us seek to deny, hide, run from or rail agains the sin which dogs our steps. In this episode Vern proposes a counter intuitive approach that he believes will actually result in better results - sitting in our sin! If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at ba…
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The theme of wide open spaces is one that Scriptural writers come back to over and over again. In this episode Vern puts on his bible teaching hat and relates to how this concept relates to our desire to walk away from porn and experience the best life that God has for us. If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about you…
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It has become quite common for churches to dip their toes into the stream of recovery groups. In this episode Vern explores the difference between a church offering recovery programs and a church actually becoming a recovery church where people can acknowledge and grow out of their brokenness. If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn…
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Are Pastors Special when it comes to porn? Are there unique reasons why pastors are drawn to porn and are there unique reasons they stay there? In this episode Vern explores that question. If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If yo…
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Looking back over 30 years of being a Pastor - from being an associate, to church planting and being a lead pastor, I have come up with a few overall lessons that I have learned. I think some of these lessons may stand you in good stead as you live in the crucible of ministry I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with…
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Have you ever been given simplistic spiritual advice that has proven to be ineffectual in your struggle with porn. Perhaps you have given simplistic advice. In this episode Vern talks about the proper way to approach (and give advice) about how to find a life of freedom from Porn. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal…
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One of the biggest challenges in working in the church is that there seems to be such a hesitation to talk about sexuality. In the absense of talk about healthy sexuality it seems that we are left with the idea that sexuality is somehow dirty or the "forbidden fruit". In this episode I interview Kyle. He is one of a trio of Christian podcast hosts …
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Mitch Harrison is a seasoned pastor and leader who has a great gift in helping tired pastors find a new rhythm for their life. This podcast is all about helping you create a new way of living that will help find a pattern of healthy self care for your life. If you follow some of the suggestions in this podcast it will greatly increase the odds of t…
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Gratitude is a huge tool in my recovery. In this episode I share some of the things that I regularly remind myself of - things that my recovery has brought into my life! I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofb…
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In this episode Vern uses tries his hand at some allegorical preaching by sharing the parallels between God's command to drive out the enemies of Canaan and our need to drive out the enemies (such as porn) from our lives. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a saf…
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Self Care is a huge part of recovery and many Pastors think this is something less than spiritual. In this episode I challenge all those in ministry to actually practice a yearly holiday as part of a self care regimen. (I don't mean a week here or there!) I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable s…
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Have you had the experience of having a family member go through a marriage breakup? In this painful episode, Vern discusses the ripples that spread out when someone you love go through a painful breakup and ask "Is there any lessons we can learn?" I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual b…
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Have you ever been shoehorned into a particular definition of being spiritual that doesn't work for your wiring. In this episode Vern talks about how we need to find our own rhythm of being spiritual - even if it means not journalling! I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If …
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In this recording from a Sunday morning message Vern asks the question - are you up to the task? Using the text of 2 Timothy 1:7 Vern talks about how God's spirit wants to move us from a posture of fear and timidity to one of power, love, and self discipline. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageab…
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Looking back on 30 years of pastoral ministry - there are three elements that led me to experience the best version of my pastoral self - three things, that when I strayed from, caused me to fray around the edges. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place …
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What if God wanted us use our story, to leverage it for His glory - even the broken shameful parts. In this episode Vern shares how, rather than hiding our brokenness, God wants to use it in surprising ways. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to tal…
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How does the idea of becoming fully alive relate to our recovery? From a Sunday morning message, Vern takes us on a journey through Narnia, Wild at Heart and the rock group Evanescense as he explores how the God's promise of "bringing us to life" is at the core of what we all long for. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to…
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In this episode Vern interviews pastor and author Mark Denison who shares about his loss of ministry and how God has turned this loss into a kingdom gain. Mark is the author of "Broken Vessels - Restoring Broken Pastors. To contact Mark you can reach him at https://thereisstillhope.org If you need a safe place to talk - you can also reach out to me…
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As we struggle with moving away from embedded porn habits, it is important to make a distinction between the presence of porn and the power of porn. Using Scripture Vern provides hope that although we may still experience the presence of sin, it's power has been broken through Jesus. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to d…
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Pastors are frequently told that they need to be above reproach (I Timothy 3) What does this actually mean? How does this relate to having a sexual struggle with something like Porn? In this episode Vern tackles that topic. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a s…
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How do we make sense of the scriptures that promise us Christian freedom when we still struggle with elements of sin's bondage? This Sunday morning message seeks to bridge that gap by providing hope for freedom - even when we are still not fully experiencing it. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanag…
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It is not uncommon to look back at a recent relapse and ask ourself "what was that about?". In this episode Vern seeks to answer that question by exploring what our relapses reveal. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to m…
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This episode refers in part to the 80's movie the Mission. Fair warning the movie does have considerable nudity in it as it portrays the life in the tribes of the South American jungle. On the other hand, the book "All is grace" by Brennan Manning contains no nudity!' I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their u…
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I believe that coaching and therapy work super well together. I am a coach not a therapist. I regularly make use of therapists and some therapists have found my approach is a great addition to what they do as well. Recently I was invited to speak to a counseling center and a group of therapists as to how my approach to sexual addictions could work …
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Gerald May in his great book "Addictions and Grace" says that one of the components of an addiction is the "distortion of reality". In this episode Vern explores how an addiction to porn changes, distorts and warps our view of reality. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If …
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Vern has been using Stephen Mansfield's book - Top Ten Signs of a Leadership Crash as the background for a number of recent episodes. In this episode, Vern is excited to interview Stephen for some further thoughts around the need for this book. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behav…
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In this episode Vern explores bitterness - one of the key elements in Stephen Mansfield's book "Ten Signs of a Leadership Crash" I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see s…
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In this episode Vern explores "Forgetting Fun" - one of the key elements in Stephen Mansfield's book "Ten Signs of a Leadership Crash" I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also…
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Is there a "gap" between your private self and your public persona. This episode based on the book "Ten Signs of a Leadership Crash" talks about how that gap is especially problematic for those of us who struggle with sexual purity and are in ministry. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexu…
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This is a part episode taken from a longer conversation on my Podcast - Finding Traction episode 54 where Vern interviews Australian sex therapist Monica Cook. This podcast is simply about the part of the conversation where Monica presents a different take on Jesus and the woman caught in adultery. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who a…
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In this episode Vern explores the lack of close friendships - one of the key elements in Stephen Mansfield's book "Ten Signs of a Leadership Crash" I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com…
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In this episode Vern explores Isolation - one of the key elements in Stephen Mansfield's book "Ten Signs of a Leadership Crash" I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see so…
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As a pastor what is appropriate to tell about my sexual struggles? In this episode we explore that question - a question that most of us struggle with in our desire to be open with our lives but also the desire to protect ourselves. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you…
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In this episode Vern interview Jonathan Daugherty the author of the book Grace Based Recovery. They discuss the ways, good and bad, that people try to help others walk free from porn. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to…
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There are a number of ways that churches react to the information that a pastor is actively engaged in some form of sexual sin. In this episode Vern explores a number of those approaches (both helpful and not so helpful) and proposes a model to use in dealing with these situations. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to dea…
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Our preaching can have unintended consequences. In this episode Vern asks the question - in our desire to help people with sexual issues are we in fact creating a culture of shame? I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me…
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Our preaching can come with unintended consequences. In this episode Vern asks are we, despite our good intentions, actually creating more of a porn culture in how we are training our people to view sexuality? I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to t…
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This is a short sermon from the story of Naaman that could be used in any recovery setting to look at how our approach to God either encourages our recovery/healing or causes us to move away from it. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you …
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In this episode Vern interviews the authors of the Beautiful Ugly Truth who share a story of how brought healing into the sexal brokenness in their marriage. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care…
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In order for us to continue our embedded use of porn we need to continually tell ourselves a number of lies. In this episode Vern interviews recovery coach John Doyel as they explore these lies. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can r…
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Survivor. Watch it. Don’t study vocab for the GRE. Just binge the show. Grad school is too expensive. Just watch all the episodes and then apply. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/grevocab/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/grevocab/support…
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Ever considered yourself misogynistic? Most of us would not consider ourselves in this light. In this episode Vern explores the uncomfortable truth about how our porn use may be changing us more than we think. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to t…
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Wanda Vision!! The new inception! Must see! Come one come all! Here here! Ahoy matties time for a Disney + subscription...also some words to help with the GRE--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/grevocab/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/grevocab/support…
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