Let’s Talk Sleep And Lactation The Responsive Family Sleep podcast

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When can I get my baby on a schedule is a very popular question I get from parents of younger babies (and even parents of older babies struggling with sleep unpredictability). It’s understandable as schedules bring predictability and order to what can feel like sleep timing chaos. In this episode I’m talking about schedules – what’s realistic and what’s not. The answer to when a baby’s sleep gets more predictable depends on their Temperament, age, and daily patterns. It also depends on what you mean by a schedule, more of a rhythm or precise, exact timings. There isn’t a simple answer, but I hope this episode will help you think through schedules and your baby in a more realistic way. Connect with Kim Instagram: instagram.com/intuitive_parenting_dc Facebook: facebook.com/intuitiveparentingdc Learn more about working with Kim: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/…

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How To Spot Hidden Sleep Training Info (Even When It’s Called Gentle) 16:35

10 днів тому16:35

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The world of sleep information is full of information that claims to be gentle and responsive but is really just sleep training with gentle marketing. So many of the sleep norms commonly shared are just wishful thinking for sleep training outcomes. How is a parent supposed to know what’s what? In this episode I’m sharing some of the red flags for sleep training - sometimes it’s very obvious and sometimes it’s more subtle. From understanding how sleep training culture influences how we think about sleep even when you know you don’t want to sleep train to understanding the sneaky ways it affects information shared about sleep even when it’s not a specific sleep training strategy, understanding what influences the sleep information you are interacting with can really help. And when you want to work with a sleep coach, really understanding their approach is essential. While I wouldn’t call this a comprehensive episode, I hope it gives you some clues to look for. Connect with Kim Instagram: instagram.com/intuitive_parenting_dc Facebook: facebook.com/intuitiveparentingdc Learn more about working with Kim: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/…

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Understanding The Stages Of Attachment With Heather Boyd 56:25

17 днів тому56:25

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Attachment is the most fundamental need and yet we don’t do much to educate parents around attachment – what is it and what do we need to do in our parenting to support it? In this week’s episode I’m joined by my friend, colleague and sleep coach Heather Boyd to talk about attachment. Our conversation focuses on the importance of attachment, attachment as the basis for development to unfold, and Dr. Neufeld’s 6 stages of attachment. We took a deeper look at the first 3 stages of attachment and how they relate to sleep and parenting. Dr. Neufeld’s work on attachment is a powerful way of making sense of the early years and the unfolding of both attachment and development. About Heather Heather is a private practice occupational therapist from Niagara, Ontario, Canada and the mother of three boys. She provides online support to families who are experiencing challenges with infant sleep, parenting, and infant development. Heather takes a developmental- and attachment-based approach to supporting families by helping parents change perspectives and change the sleep environment, rather than change the nature of the child. Connect with Heather Website: https://familysleep.ca/ Instagram: @familysleep.ca Resources related to this episode Neufeld’s roots of attachment (6 stages) video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q8qt1rv7K9Q Heather’s blog on the Neufeld stages of attachment focusing on stages 1-3 (also links to part 2 covering stages 4-6): https://familysleep.ca/blog/neufeld-stages-of-attachment-sleep-part-1 Heather’s Roots of Attachment for Sleep resource: https://heatherboyd.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1072127 Check out my blog on attachment: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/blog/2023/1/6/what-is-attachment Connect with Kim Instagram: instagram.com/intuitive_parenting_dc Facebook: facebook.com/intuitiveparentingdc Learn more about working with Kim: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/…

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Realistic Expectations For Older Toddler Sleep (2 And 3 Year Olds) 13:04

24 дні тому13:04

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Is it normal for my toddler to still wake? Surely they should be independent by now….. Even the most responsive parents can sometimes feel like toddler sleep should be easier than it is. In this last episode of my realistic expectations mini series I’m talking about 2 and 3 year old sleep. Older toddlers can still need your support at bedtime and in the night. They also do have a lot more capacity for independence and long sleep stretches than they did as a younger toddler or baby. Older toddlers need a lot of the same supports as babies and younger toddlers like good sleep hygiene and connection, and they also need support strategies that can draw on more general parenting tools like empathetic limits and playful transitions. Resources related to this episode Age by age realistic sleep expectations: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/blog/2018/7/6/developmentally-appropriate-sleep-expectations-birth-to-age-5 Toddler waking norms: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/blog/2021/1/27/is-it-normal-for-my-toddler-to-still-wake-at-night Connect with Kim Instagram: instagram.com/intuitive_parenting_dc Facebook: facebook.com/intuitiveparentingdc Learn more about working with Kim: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/…

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Embracing Your Feeding Journey With Kassi Reyes IBCLC 44:19

4 weeks тому44:19

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Feeding and sleep are two of the most individual and emotive topics in early parenting. In this episode I’m joined by Kassi Reyes, IBCLC to talk about navigating your feeding journey, especially when things don’t go as expected. We talk about the importance of support and accurate information, and also that a lactation consultant’s job is to support you to meet your feeding goals as defined by you. Our conversation touches on the emotions that can come up when navigating feeding challenges and how important it is to check in with your self to make sure that any interventions feel sustainable. We both share how valuable feeding support groups can be in the various stages of lactation to normalize and validate just how hard parenting a baby is and how constant things change. We wrap up our conversation with some tips for processing the emotions that come from a feeding journey that doesn’t go as planned so that you can still enjoy the love, snuggles, and bonding time with your little one. About Kassi Kassi Reyes is a Clinical Educator, RN, IBCLC Lactation Consultant, and a mamá. She’s worn many hats in her career including - nursing professor, lactation consultant, postpartum nurse, and doula, but being a mamá and helping other moms is her favorite. Kassi’s journey into lactation support started when she was working as a doula and felt unsure about how to help her clients with feeding challenges. That uncertainty pushed her to become an IBCLC, a process that took four years and taught her a lot about the gaps in lactation education for birthworkers. Determined to make lactation support more accessible and less intimidating, she founded the Bridge Advanced Lactation Training Program to give birthworkers and providers the skills they need to support families with confidence. She’s passionate about helping birthworkers feel prepared and empowered because she knows the more feeding knowledge everyone on the care team has, the more successful and supported families will feel. When she’s not teaching or helping families, you’ll probably find Kassi enjoying a (hopefully hot) cup of coffee, practicing yoga, spending time outside, or planning her next travel adventure. Kassi Speaks English and Spanish. Connect with Kassi www.kassireyes.com Instagram: @lactationforthepeople YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/KassiBrookeReyes Free Resources Doulas and other birthworkers: Quick Start Baby Feeding Guide for Birthworkers: Answers to the 10 Feeding Questions your Client WILL ask. Get your copy here: https://www.kassireyes.com/f/top10 Parents: Lactation Survival Guide Days 1-5: https://kassi-reyes.newzenler.com/f/lactation-guide Connect with Kim Instagram: instagram.com/intuitive_parenting_dc Facebook: facebook.com/intuitiveparentingdc Learn more about working with Kim: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/…

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Realistic Expectations For Younger Toddler Sleep (12-24 Months) 13:35

5 weeks тому13:35

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Your baby isn’t a baby any more – suddenly they are a toddler. After that first birthday the unrealistic expectations just keep coming. We expect so much from our young toddlers that they just aren’t ready for yet. In this 4th episode of my series on realistic sleep expectations by age I’m focusing on younger toddlers between 12-24 months. In many ways these toddlers are more like babies, especially in the first half of this age range. It’s very much an in-between age with widely different capabilities as far as sleep goes. Resources related to this episode Age by age realistic sleep expectations: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/blog/2018/7/6/developmentally-appropriate-sleep-expectations-birth-to-age-5 Connect with Kim Instagram: instagram.com/intuitive_parenting_dc Facebook: facebook.com/intuitiveparentingdc Learn more about working with Kim: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/…

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What's The Deal With Wake Windows? 12:55

6 weeks тому12:55

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Wake windows – helpful or stress inducing….it really depends on the family. However, wake windows are commonly shared as precise, exact rules we must follow or else (insert some fear based message). In this episode I’m sharing some thoughts on wake windows including the fact that they are not an evidence-based concept so you can feel free to ignore them if you find them stressful. I talk you through how I use wake windows as a flexible guide in my own work and as one tool, not as the only tool, for helping create a good spread of sleep throughout the day. Resources related to this episode Check out my blog post on wake windows: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/blog/2023/8/18/your-wake-window-questions-answered Connect with Kim Instagram: instagram.com/intuitive_parenting_dc Facebook: facebook.com/intuitiveparentingdc Learn more about working with Kim: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/…

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Let’s Talk Mom Guilt With Jillian Neill 58:11

7 weeks тому58:11

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Parenting is hard, and there are so many rules, shoulds, and external expectations that can lead to feelings of mom guilt. In this episode I’m joined by Dr. Jillian Neill, a psychologist specializing in the parenting transition. We talk about: What is mom guilt. Guilt verses shame verses regret. The ways in which external expectations, rules, and shoulds create mom guilt. The structural factors and things out of our control that shape our parenting experience. Identifying your values as part of pushing back against mom guilt. The importance of self-compassion. I see so much guilt over normal, healthy tools in so many parents (mostly based on the fear based sleep training culture and unrealistic expectations) and this was such a great conversation to have. I hope it gives you some food for thought the next time you are feeling guilty about something parenting related. About Jillian Dr. Jillian Neill is a licensed psychologist who specializes in working with parents and aspiring parents on the challenges that come up in the transition to parenthood, including mental health concerns, relationship issues, identity conflicts, and trauma. She provides individual and group therapy to parents across the DC region and beyond as a member of Dr. Emma Basch and Associates. She is a firm believer that mom guilt is bullshit and loves empowering moms to live their values and make parenting and life decisions that support themselves as people, not just parents. Connect with Jillian https://www.dremmabasch.com/jillian-neill Instagram: theparentingpsych Resources related to this episode Self-compassion: https://self-compassion.org/ Connect with Kim Instagram: instagram.com/intuitive_parenting_dc Facebook: facebook.com/intuitiveparentingdc Learn more about working with Kim: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/…

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Realistic Expectations For Older Baby Sleep (6-12 Months) 18:25

8 weeks тому18:25

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There are so many unrealistic expectations perpetuated about older baby sleep that it’s no wonder that so many parents are confused and overwhelmed about what’s going on. This episode is the third in my series on realistic expectations. While you hear a lot about older babies sleeping through the night and not feeding, the reality (and research) tells a very different story. In this episode I help you understand what’s normal and some of the reasons why sleep is very dynamic during this time. The more you can understand what’s normal, the more you can set yourself up for better sleep. Related resources Check out my blog on older babies and sleeping through the night: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/blog/2022/11/28/should-my-older-baby-be-sleeping-through-the-night-a-look-at-the-research-and-reality-of-sleep-development Developmentally informed sleep expectations by age: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/blog/2018/7/6/developmentally-appropriate-sleep-expectations-birth-to-age-5 Connect with Kim Instagram: instagram.com/intuitive_parenting_dc Facebook: facebook.com/intuitiveparentingdc Learn more about working with Kim: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/…

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How To Get Back On Track With Sleep After The Holidays 10:28

9 weeks тому10:28

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It’s January, and you may be thinking about bringing some order to the chaos that the holidays brought to your sleep routines. In this episode, I’m sharing some tips for getting back on track and into a good rhythm with sleep. This is a good time to keep things simple, work towards more consistent rhythms and routines, and also check in to see if your little’s needs have changed in the midst of the holiday season. It’s also a good time to remember that consistency, time, and patience go a long way to reestablishing good rhythms and routines and the lack of consistency is one of the ways we get off track over the holidays (for a good reason of course). Connect with Kim Instagram: instagram.com/intuitive_parenting_dc Facebook: facebook.com/intuitiveparentingdc Learn more about working with Kim: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/…

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Realistic Expectations For Little Baby Sleep (3-6 Months) 13:22

10 weeks тому13:22

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You finally feel like you got the hang of things, and then your baby is in a whole new phase! This is a really common feeling in this phase of babyhood. This episode is the second in my realistic expectations by age short series. I’m sharing some key points about sleep in this very in-between age, and how parents can sometimes be both a step ahead of their baby and a step behind. Throw in all the development that happens during this time and sleep definitely keeps you on your toes. Resources related to this episode A little bit more about the 4 month sleep regression (and no I generally don’t use that term): https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/blog/2022/8/10/to-the-parent-of-a-4-month-old-baby-encouragement-during-the-four-month-sleep-regression Developmentally informed sleep expectations by age: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/blog/2018/7/6/developmentally-appropriate-sleep-expectations-birth-to-age-5 Connect with Kim Grab a free sleep myth busting guide and learn more about working with Kim: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/ Instagram: instagram.com/intuitive_parenting_dc Facebook: facebook.com/intuitiveparentingdc…

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Coregulation And The Parent Baby Nervous Systems With Meaghan Beames 50:15

11 weeks тому50:15

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We tend to think of baby and parent as separate beings, separate nervous systems. And yet in so many ways they are part of an inter-connected, inter-dependent system. In this episode I’m talking with Meaghan Beames, an experienced Registered Massage Therapist, CST practitioner, mom, and the founder of the Beames CST Training Center. Our discussion focuses on regulation, coregulation, and the parent baby nervous system. While we do talk about the role of body work in supporting parent baby functioning and regulation, our conversation goes beyond the body work piece for a more comprehensive conversation about parent baby regulation. We discuss: What is polyvagal theory The interconnectedness of parent baby nervous systems Baby’s need for coregulation How the pregnancy and birth experience impact the body How bodywork can support regulation and better functioning Emotions, physical symptoms, and the body’s stored memory of our experiences. Ways to support regulation and coregulation This was a really great and insightful conversation. I’d love to hear your biggest takeaways. About Meaghan Meaghan founded the Beames CST Training Centre, offering tailored global learning for health professionals. Her mission is to ensure every family in North America has access to qualified craniosacral therapists to help their babies cope with colic, latching issues, and all the growing pains that can make life with a newborn harder than it needs to be. In 5 years, she's treated 700+ babies, taught more than 100 health professionals CST, and built a thriving practice in Toronto with multiple practitioners working under her. Her knowledge goes beyond just the practical applications of bodywork and spreads out into being a leader and growing a business. She's also the host of The My Baby Craniosacral Podcast. Connect with Meaghan Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mybabycst/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beamescst/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beamescst/ Website: https://mybabycst.com/ Website: www.beamescst.com Connect with Kim Grab a free sleep myth busting guide and learn more about working with Kim: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/ Instagram: instagram.com/intuitive_parenting_dc Facebook: facebook.com/intuitiveparentingdc…

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Realistic Expectations For Newborn Sleep (0-3 Months) 20:18

12 weeks тому20:18

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What is normal for newborn sleep? How can parents have more realistic expectations? Our culture is full of unrealistic expectations about baby sleep and it creates so much stress, worry, and anxiety. This episode starts a short series I’ll be weaving through my other episodes over the next few months on realistic expectations by age. In this episode, I’m focusing on some important points about newborn sleep and just how immature and ever changing their sleep is during this phase. Resources related to this episode How to think through a family sleep plan in the 4 th trimester: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/blog/2023/11/30/4pkldijw88upqr7xe2w56a01wruqn5 What is normal newborn sleep: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/blog/2021/3/30/normal-newborn-sleep-whats-going-on-in-the-4th-trimester Realistic expectations by age: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/blog/2018/7/6/developmentally-appropriate-sleep-expectations-birth-to-age-5 Connect with Kim Grab a free sleep myth busting guide and learn more about working with Kim: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/ Instagram: instagram.com/intuitive_parenting_dc Facebook: facebook.com/intuitiveparentingdc…

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Mindful Parenting With Sultana Karim 42:18

13 weeks тому42:18

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Early parenting is an intense time that can challenge us physically, emotionally, and mentally. A wonderful tool for coping with the intensity, challenges, and changes that come with parenting a young child is mindful parenting. In this episode I’m joined by Sultana Karim, a therapist with a specialty in both the perinatal period and trauma. Our conversation springs from a wonderful parenting group she runs and focuses on regulation, mindfulness, and self compassion. We discuss: Radical acceptance, and how not accepting our reality creates more suffering. Mindful parenting and how it can help you be aware of your own needs and balance meeting your needs with meting your babies needs. How we can regulate ourselves so we can approach parenting with more creativity and problem solving abilities. The importance of coregulation and how our littles look to our nervous systems to help them regulate. Mindfulness as a regulation tool in parenting. Self compassion, self kindness, and reframing negative thoughts. It was so fun seeing how much of my work overlaps with Sultana’s work as far as the non-therapy specific suggestions she shares. There’s so much great wisdom in this conversation, and Sultana is deeply knowledgeable. I hope you enjoy it. About Sultana Sultana Karim is the Owner and Licensed Therapist at Karim Counseling Services, PLLC. She is a Licensed Professional Counselor in MD, VA, DC, & MI, a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), Registered Yoga Teacher, Certified EMDR Therapist, and a Certified Perinatal Mental Health Professional (PMH-C). She has over 12 years of clinical experience and specializes in treating sexual and domestic violence, perinatal/ maternal mental health, pregnancy and infant loss, birth trauma, and childhood/attachment trauma in her practice. She strives to help parents to connect to their minds, bodies, and relationships. She also co-facilitates monthly healing circles for moms with Villa Advocacy Group. She is one of the founding members of the Virginia Maternal Quality Care Alliance and a member of the Perinatal Mental Health Coalition of Virginia and the PUSH Coalition. In these organizations, she strives to advocate and educate the community on maternal/perinatal mental health, maternal mortality, community-based collaboration and solutions, trauma-informed care, cultural humility, and implicit bias. Connect with Sultana Website: www.karimcounseling.org IG: www.instagram.com/karimcounseling FB: www.facebook.com/karimcounseling Connect with Kim Grab a free sleep myth busting guide and learn more about working with Kim: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/ Instagram: instagram.com/intuitive_parenting_dc Facebook: facebook.com/intuitiveparentingdc…

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Holiday Family Rituals And Traditions 6:42

14 weeks тому6:42