Russ Off The Cuff podcast

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“ The Friendship Factor ” was the first book to make me think about the importance of friendship, and that how I had been building them was more careless than careful. Over the years I have come to understand the truth of the statement that, “deep friendship requires cultivation..." With all we have discussed in this series based on the article from Lead Different titled " The Lost Art of Friendship ," now is the time to take action by investing in quality friendships. This episode sets us up to take action. Enjoy building friendships.…

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The Lost Art of Friendship, Part 12: How do we increase the depth of our friendships? 5:24

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William Deresiewicz writing in his essay " The Death of Friendship " says, "We seem terribly fragile now. A friend fulfills her duty, we suppose, by taking our side..." This runs counter to the idea of depth and friendship leaning toward the superficiality of 'leaving each other alone,' instead of 'trying to make each other better.' In this episode we talk about the 3 qualities we can invest in which increase the depth of our friendships.…

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The Lost Art of Friendship, Part 11: What does a real friendship look and feel like? 7:16

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William Deresiewicz writing in his essay " The Death of Friendship " makes the observation that modern day friendship is lacking in comparison to the ancients or classical friendship. He writes, "As for the moral content of classical friendship, its commitment to virtue and mutual improvement, that, too, has been lost." This episode is about reclaiming the true meaning of friendship, returning to the quality look and feel the ancients experienced.…

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The Lost Art of Friendship, Part 10: What are the qualities of character necessary to build friendships? 8:35

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This episode discusses the truth ancients believed about friendship, that it requires extraordinary qualities of character. We discuss 3 key qualities in this episode. " The Death of Friendship by William Deresiewicz ." How Many Friends Does One Person Need? by Robin Dunbar

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The Lost Art of Friendship, Part 9: Do we accept as truth that friendship is rare? 9:33

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This episode discusses the truth that friendship is rare, precious, and hard won. This definition is taking from the ancients based on the essay " The Death of Friendship by William Deresiewicz ." How Many Friends Does One Person Need? by Robin Dunbar

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The Lost Art of Friendship, Part 8: Have we forgotten what it means to be friends? 21:44

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This episode takes as its thesis the idea that " We cannot be friends with everyone otherwise friendship has no meaning ." Before you react consider the ideas inside this episode: Aptitude for Friendship : Do we ever think about our question our aptitude for friendship? The Meaninglessness of Friendship : What is it about our lack of definition to friendship which can cause it to become meaningless? Restoring Meaning to Friendship : 9 things that give meaning and definition to our friendships The Death of Friendship by William Deresiewicz…

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Why Are We Afraid To Lead, Intro, Part 1 12:07

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This week I saw fear in the face of a young leader. He reminded me of my own fear at a similar age. This lead me to create an article called "Why Are We Afraid To Lead." You can find the article on Lead Different . The Art of Non-Conformity Discussed are the 6 sources of tension for young leader Chronic Insecurity Chronic Anxiety Chronic Pressure Chronic Stress Chronic Emotional Confusion Chronic Psychic Struggle…

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The Lost Art of Friendship, Part 7: Friendship or Distraction? 18:46

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This is the 7th episode of our " Lost Art of Friendship " podcast series based on the Lead Different article of the same name which you can find here . This episode begins the breakdown of 7 questions based on reflections from the William Deresiewicz essay " The Death of Friendship ." The question answered in this episode: What is the difference between Friendship and Distraction? Here is a snippet to give you an idea where we are going in this episode, "A common mistake is to identify relationships as friendships, when the only purpose they serve is to distract us from the uncomfortable, difficult, or painful."…

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The Lost Art of Friendship, Part 6: A Few Thoughts About Teens 9:45

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Teenagers are experiencing a punishing loneliness during this pandemic. This experience is chronicled by Ellen McCarthy in “ The loneliness of an interrupted adolescence.” Teens reflect the general erosion of mental health during this pandemic. Everyone is effected in some way. The Lost Art of Friendship was written to highlight the importance of friendship in battling the emotional challenges of this pandemic as well as the general and ongoing need for genuine friendships. The hope is to provide definition to what they are and insight on how to build them. You can read the original article here. You can also find previous episodes of the podcast on Spotify or wherever you listen to your podcast…

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The Lost Art of Friendship, Part 5: The Loneliness Epidemic 14:58

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"Something I have learned about my life and the lives of the hundreds I have spoken to about their emotional and spiritual lives is that loneliness is experienced more often than admitted ." This quote and episode theme is drawn from "The Lost Art of Friendship," which you can find at Lead Different . " The Lonely Century " is a book by Noreena Hertz which I recommend and refer to. This episode has several article references which can be found in the original article here .…

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The Importance of Being a Learner 7:22

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This is a quick reflection on learning. No absolutes. No certainty. Only an awareness that the future belongs to those who learn, and organizations with a learning culture. "we can then build “learning organizations,” organizations where people continually expand their capacity to create the results they truly desire, where new and expansive patterns of thinking are nurtured, where collective aspiration is set free, and where people are continually learning how to learn together." The above quote belongs to Peter Senge. It is from his book " The Fifth Discipline: The Art & Practice of The Learning Organization ," a volume I refer to when I notice myself or others in the organizations of which I am a part becoming resistant to learning. My hope is you will listen and share, and if there is enough interest then I will be writing more about learning on Lead Different .…

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Am I Emotion Phobic? 21:42

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Emotional Phobias lead us to " suppress and diminish our emotions ." After a time, we become emotionally deprived or dehydrated. This emotional deprivation or dehydration leaves us in a state of emotional hunger or thirst at which time we start pursuing... Brené Brown: You can find all her works on Amazon here . I recommend Rising Strong, Braving the Wilderness, and Daring Greatly Key Definition: Humility is the Absence Insecurity Key Definition: Emotion Phobic people fear and devalue emotion…

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The Lost Art of Friendship, Part 4: A Quick Sidebar About Men and Loneliness 16:36

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Real friendship tends to be difficult for men and boys. We are taught early on that our emotions can lead us into the “dark arts of human vulnerability...” Brian's Song : Groundbreaking movie about friendships among men (1970s) The Uncomfortable Truth about Male Loneliness : Honest depiction of the messiness involved with building male relationships…

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The Lost Art of Friendship, Part 3: How we Lose the Art of Friendship? 13:21

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"One of the best ways to receive an emotional education is through friendship. For this to occur these friendships must be built from the inside out, intrinsically not extrinsically." Tombstone : This movie's depiction of friendship is worth watching The Lost Art of Friendship : This is the article upon which the podcast series is based…

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The Lost Art of Friendship, Part 2: Friendship Requires an Emotional Education 43:10

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