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Listen up Girlies!! Healing isn’t just a (hot girl) walk in the park, it’s a damn journey. The BeThatHealingGirl Podcast is all about busting old school dating myths, breaking down our childhood traumas, unlearning our bad habits and healing your way to your DREAM LIFE! Let’s keep it real and begin to heal because honestly… eff that guy not texting you back, stop worrying about being liked, it’s time to let go of anxious attachment behaviors, start getting comfortable with being vulnerable a ...
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In this episoe we’re talking about how to feel like a priority in your relationship... without slipping into overthinking, over‑analyzing every text, or feeling like you’re “asking for too much.” This episode is for you if: • You know they care about you… but you can’t always feel it • You find yourself checking for proof or reassurance • You are t…
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You're not needy. You're just healing! In this episode, I’m sharing how I accidentally rewired my anxious attachment into a secure one...without forcing it, faking it, or labeling myself as “crazy.” If you’ve ever found yourself wondering: “Why am I spiraling when everything is fine?” “Why do I panic when things finally feel safe?” …or “Why can’t I…
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Welcome back BBs! In this episode, we’re diving deep into a pattern I see all the time: acting “chill” when inside, you're spiraling. You know the drill...trying so hard to come off as the "cool-low-maintenance-unbothered-girlie" so you don’t scare a good partner away… but then end up feeling lonely, disconnected, or like they’re slipping further a…
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If you're in a healthy relationship but your brain won't stop spiraling... this episode is going to hit home. In this week’s episode I’m breaking down the 3 mistakes that keep high-achieving, anxious girlies stuck in the cycle of second-guessing even the most loyal and consistent partner. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking: “Why can’t I just en…
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In this episode we’re unpacking one of the most confusing (and exhausting) dynamics in anxious relationships ➡️ Anxiety vs. Intuition. And why your nervous system can't tell the difference.... yet. We’ll dive into: ✨ The #1 way to know it’s anxiety (not intuition) ✨ How urgency, reactivity & spiraling feel like instinct - but aren’t ✨ Why you're ad…
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You’re Not Overreacting - You’re Dysregulated (Here’s Why It Feels Like Everything’s Falling Apart When It’s Actually Fine) You’re not crazy. You’re not being dramatic. You’re just dysregulated AF and your body hasn’t caught up to how safe your life actually is. This episode is for the high-functioning, hyper-self-aware girlies who are checking all…
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You’ve read the books, saved the Instagram carousels, diagnosed your attachment style (hi anxious girlies 👋), and can spot a spiral from a mile away… but you’re still spiraling?! 🌀 In this episode, we break down: 💭 Why high self-awareness doesn't stop the overthinking 🧠 The "anxious observer" trap (aka when you know you’re spiraling and still can’t…
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Do you go to overthinking the second the vibes are off? Scroll TikTok for answers before the text even delivers? Google “anxious attachment + texting” like it’s your part-time job? Yeah. Me too. This episode is for the girlies who know they’re spiraling and feel like they can’t stop—especially when they’re dating someone good. If overthinking has b…
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✨ You’ve read the books. Listened to the podcasts. You could give a TED Talk on attachment styles. So why are you still spiraling?! In this episode I'm talking to YOU, the high-achieving, emotionally intelligent girlie who knows her patterns but still finds herself overthinking texts, replaying convos, and getting caught in the same loop with the s…
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✨ Ever feel like your brain just won’t shut off... even when everything’s actually fine in your relationship? You’re spiraling, checking for signs, running worst-case scenarios, and overanalyzing their every move... but you know deep down, it’s you, not them. 🤯 On this week's episode we're diving into what might be the most toxic, but totally norma…
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After six weeks of serious inner work (including a spiritual cleanse and a solo wilderness retreat where I literally faced my fear of abandonment head-on), I’m sharing the three biggest things that helped me stop overthinking once and for all. If you’re the kind of girly who spirals over a short text... rereads convos wondering what you did wrong..…
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If you spiral when your partner seems distant… If your brain won’t stop running “what did I do wrong?” loops… If you’re smart, successful, high-achieving, and still struggling with anxious thoughts in love… You are so not alone. And this episode is for you. 🧠💔 We’re unpacking 3 hard truths about overthinking that every anxious-attached woman needs …
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Ever feel like you're doing all the inner work, listening to every podcast, journaling your heart out and still fall back into the same anxious spirals or overthinking loops? SAME. In this raw and real episode, I’m pulling back the curtain and sharing what I’m still healing… even as a relationship coach. This episode is for the high-achieving, high…
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If You Overthink Every Text Message… This Episode Is For You! You’re crushing it at work, you're a boss in life, but when it comes to your relationship? You're suddenly spiraling over why he took 6-hours to text you back or asking "are we okay" over and over again... Then this episode is your soft place to land. In this episode we’re unpacking the …
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In this powerful episode, I sit down with my client Karuna - science writer, high achiever, and living proof that secure attachment is possible! We’re talking full transformation: from spiraling over missed texts to feeling calm, confident, and deeply self-trusting in relationships (and beyond). Karuna shares the real, raw moments (crying in the sh…
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Ever feel like you're just too much in your relationship? 😵💫 Like your emotions are too messy, too needy, or too intense so you try to keep them bottled up just to keep the peace? Yeah… been there. In this week’s episode we're getting into the real reason you feel like you're too much (and why it’s actually a sign you're ready to heal your anxious…
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You had an amazing weekend... the vibes were vibing, the cuddles were elite, and the connection felt so good. Then you got home, sat on the couch, and suddenly you’re spiraling. Sound familiar? This episode is all about why post-vacation (or post-holiday) anxiety hits so hard (especially if you’re anxiously attached and dating someone amazing). I’m…
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If slow feels boring, if calm feels confusing, and if your nervous system is low-key addicted to chaos.... this one’s for you. This week, we’re diving into what a secure relationship actually looks and feels like (even if your anxious attachment says, “Wait, is this it?”). Whether you’re dating, in a long-term partnership, or healing from relations…
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It’s our 6-year wedding anniversary (!!) and today I brought my husband Craig on the podcast for the realest conversation about love, growth, and the journey from spiraling to secure. We’re answering your juiciest Qs: ✨ What it’s really like when anxious meets avoidant ✨ Our proposal story (yes, there was a backup plan involving a dog) ✨ How we alm…
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Still Needing Constant Reassurance in Your Relationship? Here’s Why 👀 . This episode is for the anxious girlies who look like they have it all together … but on the inside, you’re checking the vibes like it’s your full-time job. We’re talking: ✨ Why your brain craves constant reassurance—and how to stop needing it ✨ The connection between high achi…
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This episode is for the anxious girlies who look like they have it all together (you’ve got degrees, deadlines, and the job)… but on the inside, you’re checking the relationship vibes like it’s your full-time job. We’re talking: ✨ Why your brain craves constant reassurance and how to stop needing it ✨ The connection between high achievement & emoti…
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We’re unpacking the 3 big reasons your anxious attachment isn’t healing, even if you’re doing everything “right.” Spoiler: it’s not about trying harder… it’s about trying differently. If you’re a high-achieving, self-aware, anxious girlie who still feels like a walking red flag in relationships, this one’s for you. We’re talking: ✨ Why performing y…
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Ever wonder what it actually looks like to go from anxious, overthinking, “I’m probably the problem” energy… to grounded, confident, and finally feeling secure in your relationship? In this raw and heart-hitting episode, I’m sitting down with one of my 1:1 coaching client, a high-achieving, military-working, nurse-extraordinaire, who decided to sto…
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Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl podcast! If your mind is spiraling, your stomach’s in knots, and you’ve refreshed your texts 18 times in the last 3 minutes… this episode is your emergency toolkit! In this quick but powerful 5-minute pep talk, I’m giving you grounding reminders to come back home to yourself when your anxious attachment gets…
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Ever find yourself refreshing your texts like your life depends on it? Or spending 10 hours doing two hours of work because your brain won’t stop obsessing over that thing you said? Yep. This one’s for you, bb! In this episode, I’m giving you powerful (and surprisingly calming) reminders for when your anxious attachment kicks in HARD. Whether you'r…
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Ever held it in like a champ… until you exploded over something small (but actually not small at all)? 🙃 You didn’t want to ruin the vibe. It was the weekend. You were on vacation. You told yourself “It’s fine” five times in your head and then snapped over the way they chewed. Yup. This one’s for you, babe. In this weeks episode , we’re talking: Ho…
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Why do we keep explaining... and explaining... and explaining — and still walk away feeling misunderstood (and kind of embarrassed)? 😵💫 In this week's episode we’re diving into why overexplaining is so common for high-achieving, anxious-attached girlies — and why it actually makes you feel less secure (not more). We’ll talk about: - How overexplai…
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You’re the go-to girl at work, the one who gets it DONE… but when it comes to your relationship? Cue the overthinking, second-guessing, and constant need for reassurance. 🫠 Sound familiar? This week we’re talking about one of the BIGGEST blocks I see with my high-achieving, high-performing girlies: how to actually build self-trust (especially after…
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Are you overthinking every convo, second-guessing yourself constantly, and wondering... “Am I triggered or am I actually right?” 😅 Welcome to the most validating episode you didn’t know you needed. In this week’s episode we’re diving deep into that hot mess moment we all know too well—when you can’t tell if your anxious attachment is flaring up or …
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This week, we're getting real about the messy middle — where you logically know you’re in a good relationship but emotionally still feel anxious AF. If you’re constantly asking: “Why isn’t this enough?” “Why do I still feel so unsure?” “Why can’t I just be chill for once?!” Then this episode is your exact starting point. 👏 Inside, we’re talking abo…
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Welcome to the episode every anxious attachment girlie needs in her back pocket. If you spiral when they don’t text back, replay convos 14 times in your head, or wake up with an emotional hangover worse than a tequila bender… this one's for you. 💌 We’re talking about what actually works in the heat of the moment — when you’re triggered, panicked, a…
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Let’s be real: you’re the hyper-independent girlie who gets ish DONE. You’ve got the degree, the business, the receipts. But when it comes to relationships? Your anxious attachment is quietly (or not so quietly) throwing hands in the background. 😅 In this episode, I’m diving deep into what I call the "Don’t need anyone but kinda wish they’d text me…
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In this episode, I’m breaking down the biggest mistakes I see when people try to “fix” their anxious attachment triggers—and why those habits might actually be keeping you stuck in the same cycle. 🚨 We’re diving into: 🔥 Why being hard on yourself is making it worse (and what to do instead) 🔥 The sneaky ways perfectionism is showing up in your heali…
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Imagine going from spiraling over “Do they really like me?” to casually ring shopping like it’s no big deal. 🤯 That’s exactly what’s happening for my clients—and in this episode, I’m giving you the real tea on how they went from anxious to ENGAGED. 💍✨ If you’re a high-achieving, overthinking, lowkey-perfectionist queen who’s crushing it in your car…
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Feel like you're the one keeping the relationship alive? 😩 You’re planning the dates, remembering the little things, prioritizing them… and they’re just kinda there. So what gives? Are you asking for too much? Are they low-effort or just wired differently? And most importantly—how do you actually get them to step up without nagging, over-functionin…
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STOP DOING ALL THE WORK IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP 😤 (Why You’re Exhausted & How to Fix It) Ever feel like you’re carrying the whole damn relationship on your back? Planning the dates, making space in your schedule, keeping the energy going—while he just... coasts? Yeah, I see you, and this episode is for you. Today, we’re breaking down why high-achievin…
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This week I’m joined by Dr. Jeanine Staples-Dixon, a literal genius, tenured professor at Penn State, and someone who knows why you keep self-sabotaging in love. We’re breaking down: 🔥 Why your relationship anxiety isn’t just a “you” thing—it’s a SYSTEM thing 🔥 How patriarchy, white supremacy & capitalism keep you chasing love & approval 🔥 The snea…
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🚨 Reality check for my high-achieving, anxious girlies in relationships with an avoidant partner… 🚨 Valentine’s Day can be a lot—especially if you’re anxiously attached and caught in the push-pull dynamic. The overthinking. The “are we okay?” spiral. The low-key panic when they don’t text back right away. Sound familiar? You’re not alone, and this …
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If you’re anxiously attached and dating an avoidant, you already know this relationship is basically an extreme sport. One minute, you’re feeling all the love; the next, you’re staring at your phone wondering why they haven’t texted back for seven hours (… or seven days 😅). If you’re deep in the “is this ever going to work, or am I just setting mys…
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Okay, real talk—are you actually pushing away someone great, or do you just keep attracting emotionally unavailable people? Because SAME. Been there, lived it, wrote the metaphorical book. This week, we’re getting deep into: 💔 Why you might be sabotaging a good relationship without realizing it 🔥 The real reason you keep attracting emotionally unav…
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✨ Hey girlies, welcome to SEASON 2 of the BeThatHealingGirl Podcast! ✨ We’re leveling up big time—new vibes, new content, and SO many juicy convos ahead. Today, we’re diving into something we all know too well: the push-pull dynamic in relationships. You know, when things feel AMAZING one moment and like a dumpster fire the next? Been there. Let’s …
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✨ It’s 2025 and we’re not carrying anxious attachment into this new era okay? Feeling stuck in the what ifs and putting your life on hold for someone else? Trust me, I’ve been there. In this special year-end episode, we’re diving into how anxious attachment has been holding you back from living your best life—and, more importantly, how to leave it …
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In this episode I’m breaking down why pretending you’re totally fine when you’re actually spiraling inside is keeping you stuck. 🚨Spoiler Alert: Being unbothered isn’t an act. It’s a practice. If you’re tired of filling your calendar, holding in your feelings, and THEN word-vomiting because you can’t hold it in anymore… this episode is for you, hon…
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Anxious Meets Avoidant: How We Overcame the Fear Cycle in Our Relationship (Part 2 with Craig!)
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💖 This is Part 2 of my special series with none other than my husband, Craig! In this episode, we’re diving deep into the patterns that defined the early days of our relationship—hello, anxious and avoidant attachment styles—and how we worked through them to create the connection we have today. We get super real about the miscommunications, the fea…
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🚨 SPECIAL EPISODE ALERT! 🚨 This week on BeThatHealingGirl, I’m joined by none other than… my husband, Craig! 💍✨ We’re pulling back the curtain on our relationship and diving into everything from attachment styles (anxious vs. avoidant anyone? 👀), to the hilarity of fighting over In-N-Out Burger, to how fear vs. love plays a major role in relationsh…
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So you asked for the reassurance. You got it. And... you’re still spiraling. WTF, right? 🤯 This week, we’re getting into why that little “everything’s fine” doesn’t actually hit the way you hoped it would—and why it never will (spoiler: it’s not about them, bb, it’s about YOU). 💅 We’re unpacking the real tea on why reassurance is just a Band-Aid fo…
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Ever sent a 3-page text knowing you shouldn’t? Or started a fight just because you couldn’t scratch that itch? Yep, we’re going there. If overthinking has you spiraling like Alice down the rabbit hole (been there!), this episode is for you. We’re diving deep into the dos and don’ts of breaking free from the overthinking cycle so you can step back f…
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Does a little distance feel like a red alert to you? Whether it's a delayed text, a faraway look, or physical distance (hello, long-distance relationships!), this episode dives into the heart of how to stay connected even when your mind is spiraling. With the holidays around the corner, distance—emotional or physical—might hit a little differently,…
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In this very special episode, we’re welcoming our first guest ever to the podcast, and I couldn’t be more excited! Today, I’m joined by Athena, a former client who went ALL IN on her healing journey. We’re diving deep into her incredible transformation and how she moved from anxiety, overthinking, and self-doubt to self-regulation and confidence in…
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