Promise Progress and Deliver - how to keep promises to yourself & transform your life

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Episode 27, Jessies World podcast - Promise Progress and Deliver!

Hosted by Jessica Vibez

Welcome

Intro (Jingle “do do do do do love and light, do do do do do love and light, do do do do do love and light, welcome to Jessie’s World, you’ll feel alright. By Jessica Lambert / Jessica Tha Goddess)

Thanks so much for tuning into episode 27 of Jessie’s World Podcast – where we are dedicated to helping people connect with, nurture, and grow their inner gifts; achieve self-empowerment, and enjoy a life of love, light, and authentic abundance. We inspire leadership and encourage legacy building that improves human lives and our world.

If you are upwardly mobile, a go getter, and committed to improving yourself and your life this is the podcast for you. I am your host Jessica Vibez with a Z, bringing you weekly episodes every Sunday to help accelerate your personal and professional development journey. Be sure to follow me on IG @jessicavibez and follow our show @JessiesWorldXO

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“The key to growth is to learn to make promises, and then – to keep them!” Stephen Convoy

Topic Introduction

Today’s topic is about the promises we make, and do not make, to ourselves.

Why promises are important.

Why we do not make them.

And if we do make them – why we do not keep them, and what impact that has on us.

Then we are going to work to develop the muscle of making, and keeping, promises to ourselves in our personal and professional lives. As we do this more and more we will develop excellent success habits and even improve our ability to confidently make commitments to others and fulfill those commitments, deepening our relationships and improving our overall quality of life.

Are you ready for another epic transformative process – let’s get into it!

(Possible Tessy Time – ON TOPIC)

But First

That’s right folks, this is one of those coveted episodes where we will be having Tessy Time … you’re nah ready fi dis yet famz.

Okay – today’s Tessy Topic – misinformation!!!

I said it.

Yes long before we had the term ‘fake news’ floating around, we had old adages, self-defeating quotes, limiting beliefs, and general mind poison – AND NO ONE CALLED IT OUT.

Well famz, today I am calling it out.

This saying “a promise is a comfort to a fool” is often mistaken as do not trust anyone or their promises ever and that is just too sinical an outlook for me to accept. While humans by nature are flawed, and therefore will not, even if entirely good intentioned, be able to fulfill every promise they ever make, the view that then no one should ever make or accept a promise lowers our bar and expectations as humans of other humans, and sometimes of ourselves, to an unacceptably low level.

Growing up I would hear adults around me say, in response to a request, “I will try, but I am not promising anything.” By nature of the fact that we as humans are flawed, so a reasonable flexibility for human error is assumed with every healthy promise giver and receiver, then there is no need for skeptical half hearted agreements. By the very nature of saying I am not promising you are saying you may not try so then why even start the sentence with ‘I will try’ because essentially you may not… and that is why you won’t promise.

No one likes breaking promises, but to live in a society where no one trusts their own word enough to promise and commit to others, means that we are also living in a world where people are struggling to promise, and commit to themselves…and THAT is very scary.

We need to TRY for ourselves, and quiet frankly, for those we love, and for the things that we are passionate about and care about in our lives.

A life void of trying is a life void of a passion – the same fiery pursuit of passion that lead to inventions we enjoy, social and civil changes that improved humanity, and every great milestone ever achieve in human history …and some not so great ones too.

Without that burning desire to win, to deliver, to make change, to experience life, to love and be loved, give and be given to, to be the change, to leave a legacy, to rise, to win… without that, we have a bland life of lack luster maybes and that is just NOT good enough.

So – we are re-introducing the PROMISE here and now.

“PROMISE – a declaration, or assurance, that one will do a particular thing, or that a particular thing will happen.”

And we are going to start with perfecting the process of making, and keeping, promises to OURSELVES!

Personal Development Take

According to a Harvard University stress management study, top leaders who experience success others want to emulate prioritize keeping promises to themselves, and others.

Contrary to the best selling book Leaders Eat Last which suggests that good leaders will put aside their own needs and go without to sacrifice the building of entities and opportunities that help and feed others – this Harvard Study highlighted that in fact the same people who choose to eat last also end up burning out and not being able to enjoy their high ranking success when achieved.

So, promises are not the surface things we think of – willy nilly making here and there in life in business to ourselves to others if the whim arise; but in fact, promises should be thought of as strategic decisions in the over-arching architecture of crafting a well balanced and fulfilling life.

And, in fact, while many of us are empaths and people pleasers, the truth is it al begins with the promises we make to ourselves, and our commitment to keeping those promises.

Why we don’t make promises to ourselves.

As mentioned earlier, we often do not make the promises to ourselves that will hold us accountable to becoming our best-selves, but why?

Some reasons include:

· You are still putting others before yourself – even after all the work we have been doing in Jessie’s World to build your confidence and help you love you better, you are still showing up last in your life for you, and that is not okay. We need to move you to the top of your own to-do list so you can connect with you, listen to you, understand you, show empathy to yourself, and set yourself on a path of true, deep, meaningful winning

· You are immersed in work – if you are so ‘swamped’ at work that you can not come up for air and take time to attend to your own personal needs and self-care then you are either suffering from poor habits, bad planning, people pleasing at work, or you are hiding from the concerns you know you need to address with yourself. In any event – this will lead to burnout at some point, and will likely have some serious consequences physically, emotionally, socially, mentally and more.

· Inertia – your body’s desire to keep everything the same. So in fact, if the unbalance in your life is uncomfortable, you may have decided it is still more comfortable than change. Your cells may be doing everything to convince you change is not worth it, good thing I am here to convince you otherwise – CHANGE IS WORT...