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This podcast is for you if you have found yourself unexpectedly single and absolutely shitting it. The Divorce Chapter is all about writing the next bit of your story and remembering, this is just one chapter… it’s not the end or miserable ever after. I am Sarah Elizabeth, and I am a divorce coach and mentor and founder of The BLOSSOM Method®, passionate about supporting and empowering women to create a much happier life post divorce. Each episode is your inspiration to explore your emotiona ...
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Send us a text In this week’s episode of the Divorce Chapter, I dive deep into the topic of emotional affairs and the ‘silent’ betrayal. While physical affairs often steal the spotlight, 'invisible' emotional betrayal can be just as devastating, if not more so. I explore how these affairs often start as innocent friendships, slowly evolving into so…
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Send us a text Have you ever felt like you’re stuck in a loop after your divorce? Replaying the past over and over again? Wondering why it’s so hard to let go and move forward? In this episode, I get real about the emotional and psychological blocks we face post-divorce—fear of loneliness, guilt, shame, and that never-ending “what if” thinking. I’v…
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Send us a text OK so this week is a bit of a hopefully powerful, but definitely no-holds-barred conversation about reclaiming your strength and exposing male privilege in relationships. I may go ever so slightly off-piste on my soapbox (!) but I genuinely feel that it is important that we talk about this stuff. We talk in the episode about how male…
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EP54 Rewriting the Story of the Narcissist in your Life: A review of the book ‘It’s Not You’
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Send us a text Ever wish you could rewrite the past? Sadly, we can’t turn back time, but we can definitely rewrite our future—and that’s exactly what we’re diving into today. In this episode, I break down Dr. Ramani Durvasula’s game-changing book, “It’s Not You”. This book is an absolute MUST-read if you’ve ever found yourself tangled up with a nar…
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Send us a text After a divorce, many of us expect the worst of our emotional struggles to be over. But, as I've come to understand through my own journey and conversations with others, the first relationship after a divorce can bring a heartbreak that’s unexpected and uniquely f*cking painful. In this episode, I dive into why this post-divorce hear…
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EP52 Taking Back the Calendar and Taking Back your Life: How to Handle Anniversaries After Divorce
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Send us a text In this episode of "The Divorce Chapter" podcast, I reflect on the challenges of coping with anniversaries after a divorce. As someone who's been through the utter shitshow of a marriage ending, I know first-hand how difficult these days can be, especially in that first year. Anniversaries, such as your wedding date or other signific…
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Send us a text In this episode, I look into the often-overlooked signs of abuse in relationships (after touching on Betrayal Blindness too). Abuse isn't always obvious; it can be subtle, manipulative, and deeply damaging. That’s why I’ve highlighted 15 key indicators that you or someone you know might be in an abusive relationship. 1. Physical Viol…
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Send us a text In this episode of "The Divorce Chapter" podcast, we welcome the brilliant Chantelle Dyson, a certified life coach, educator, speaker, and podcast host. Chantelle, who divorced in her 20s after only a year of marriage, shares her journey of self-discovery and personal growth. She discusses the societal pressures that often dictate li…
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Send us a text In this episode of The Divorce Chapter podcast, I’ve been a bit inspired by my 52nd birthday tomorrow, and so giving you "52 Things to Do on Your Own." Following my divorce, I had to really relearn being on my own, and this escalated even more in the Panny-D. Now, I want to inspire you to find your own joy in alone time, whether you'…
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Send us a text In this episode of The Divorce Chapter, I look at finding "happily ever after" after divorce, particularly focusing on the potential for new relationships and maybe even saying ‘I do’ again. Inspired by my goddaughter's wedding today, I reflect on the value of love and commitment, even after the heartbreak of a failed marriage. My ma…
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Send us a text In this episode, we take a look at hyper-independence, a common but often overlooked issue that many of us face after going through a divorce. It maybe starts as a new found independence and autonomy after breaking free from a co-dependent toxic relationship…. But soon ends up going to the other extreme where we refuse to ask for hel…
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Send us a text In this week’s episode of The Divorce Chapter podcast, I had a fantastic conversation with Elisa Lindstrom, a decluttering expert and founder of "Dear Loves Just Breathe." In our discussion, Elisa shares her personal journey, where she began her own decluttering journey amidst a challenging divorce. Elisa's insights into the emotiona…
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Send us a text In this empowering episode, we go deep into the concepts of self-care, self-love, and self-worth, and explore how they are crucial in overcoming codependency, especially in the aftermath of divorce. We cover: 💗The Fabergé Egg Analogy: Learn how to recognise and protect your unique value. 💗Understanding Key Concepts: Differentiate bet…
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Send us a text In this episode of the Divorce Chapter podcast, I dive deep into the often overlooked and insidious issue of financial abuse. I share my own experience of being financially controlled and manipulated by my ex-husband and discuss how financial abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of age, gender, or economic status. You’ll hear about…
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Send us a text On this week’s episode we have the amazing Legally Nik as our wonderful first ever guest on the Divorce Chapter pod. Nik is a trained family lawyer specialising in child protection and she also is a co-parenting, counter- parenting mentor. Bridging the gap between the law and real life, Nik provides not only legal guidance to your pe…
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Send us a text This week’s episode looks at the controversy and scandal of infidelity through the lens of the Ashley Madison documentary now streaming on Netflix (*spoiler alert for those who haven’t yet watched it*) (There is also a trigger warning for suicide) As someone who has navigated the painful path of betrayal and divorce, I watched this d…
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Send us a text In this episode of The Divorce Chapter podcast, we talk through an overview of the hugely impactful book "Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life" by Tracy Schorn, aka Chump Lady. You can find the book here: http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0762458968/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21 This book was highlighted in the Divorce Book Club in May and is an u…
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Send us a text In this episode, we explore the often-overlooked topic of pets during separation and divorce. I share my personal experience with my beloved chocolate lab, Jexi, and discuss the emotional and legal challenges that pets face in the midst of marital breakdowns. We dive into the importance of pets in our lives, the concept of a "pet-nup…
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Send us a text In this episode, we dive into one of the biggest mindfucks of divorce—cognitive dissonance. If you've ever struggled to reconcile the person you married with the person you're now divorcing, this episode is for you. We explore why this psychological phenomenon occurs, how it impacts your healing process, and practical steps you can t…
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Send us a text In this week's episode of "The Divorce Chapter," we're exploring a topic that might pique your curiosity (or else bring out your dubious side) and that is "woo woo" practices and their potential to guide us through the complexities of divorce recovery. You might be wondering, what exactly is "woo woo"? It's a term used to describe un…
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Send us a text Welcome to this episode where we dive into the murky waters of dating post-divorce. Whether you're contemplating it, already dipping your toes in, or happily single but keeping an open mind, this one's for you. I'm no dating expert as you’ll hear in the episode 😂 but I've had my fair share of post-divorce dating mishaps, so I figured…
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Send us a text Hey there gorgeous listener, This week, I'm super excited to kick off the new divorce book club with Tracy Schorn's "Leave a Cheater Gain a Life" book. It's a fantastic opportunity to dive into meaningful discussions about navigating all things divorce. If you're not part of the club yet, hop on over to patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub…
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Send us a text In this episode of the Divorce Chapter Podcast, we explore the theme of confidence after divorce. Drawing insights from the wisdom of the Queen of Confidence, Erika Cramer, we delve into what confidence truly means post-divorce. Whether you're just starting your journey or you've been navigating life post-divorce for a while now, thi…
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Send us a text How often do your thoughts spiral out of control? Our minds are incredibly active at the best of times, with an estimated 60 to 80 thousand thoughts per day, but after divorce, it can feel like this is at least trebled right? Which leaves us bloody exhausted. In this episode, we explore practical techniques to help you regain control…
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Send us a text Divorce is a journey filled with all sorts of twists and turns, and one aspect that often gets overlooked is its impact on relationships with ex-in-laws. In this week's episode, we're diving into the complexities of navigating post-divorce relationships with former family members and finding common ground amidst the emotional upheava…
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Send us a text In this episode, I’m diving into post-divorce tattoos, exploring the rising trend of women getting inked after the end of long-term relationships. I talk through my own journey through ink and the connections and significance of my tattoos. Though all but one were post-divorce as the ex HATED the one small sun I had back then - Yes I…
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Send us a text Breaking up is never easy. Whether it was an amicable parting or a more tumultuous and fucked up split, the aftermath of a divorce can leave us feeling lost, confused, and emotionally drained. One of the most challenging aspects of navigating life post-breakup is enforcing and maintaining no contact with the ex. In this episode we go…
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Send us a text Have you heard the one about the cat who got divorced? He was a cheetah… get it? Maybe it's too soon to laugh, but could there be a role for humour in divorce? I know that divorce is no joke, especially when it involves betrayal and abuse. But amidst the bitterness and anger, is there a point where we need to learn to laugh again? Hu…
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Send us a text Are you grappling with loneliness post-divorce? The dread of being alone, especially during long weekends, can be overwhelming. It’s so damn hard…. Loneliness after divorce is a complex emotion, stemming from various facets of life upheaval. And it is such a common experience…. But it’s also important to understand that being alone d…
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Send us a text Welcome back to another episode of the Divorce Chapter Podcast! This week, we dive into part 2 of "Plotting the Next Chapter" as we continue to create a vision for our future. In the last episode, we explored the concept of the "end of history illusion" – the tendency to reflect on how much things have changed in the past but how we …
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Send us a text In this episode, we talk about the process of creating a new vision for the future after divorce. The devastation of a broken future and the expectations that come with a long-term relationship are very real and really damn hard to navigate right? I explain the concept of the end of history illusion, which further prevents us from en…
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26. From Love Bombs and Hoovering to Ghosting and Flying Monkeys; Decoding Divorce and Relationship Jargon
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Send us a text Have you ever found yourself grappling with terms like "gaslighting," "ghosting," or "trauma bonds," unsure of their meanings or implications? If so, you're not alone. In this episode, we delve into the complex world of divorce and relationship terminology and lingo…. A bit like an alternative dictionary. There is so much of this lan…
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Send us a text Are you ready for a deep dive into the bewildering world of runaway husbands? In this episode of The Divorce Chapter podcast, I explore the unexpected plot twist of husbands who just up and leave with zero warning. Drawing inspiration from the book "Runaway Husbands" by Vikki Stark, I share my own insights and experiences, emphasizin…
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Send us a text Hello, and welcome back to another episode of the Divorce Chapter podcast, turning the unexpected divorce plot twist into a new and improved happily ever after. Can we talk about Valentine's Day for a moment? After a divorce, it feels like hearts and flowers just rub salt in the wound, right? But let's turn the tables on this whole V…
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Send us a text In this episode of the Divorce Chapter podcast, I am exploring the challenging process of letting go of anger, hurt, and resentment after a divorce. I go deep into the complexity of emotions post-divorce, and the importance of moving past the destructive emotions associated with betrayal and actively choosing a path of healing and gr…
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Send us a text Welcome back to another episode of the Divorce Chapter podcast! I hope you're hanging in there as we approach the end of January – almost made it! Not much to report my end, except my ongoing battle with technology. Getting the Divorce Book Club off the ground is proving to be a tech-induced headache. Website, links, and all the digi…
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21. Gaslighting, Lies and Manipulation: Reclaiming our Narrative from the Layers of Betrayal
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Send us a text Welcome back to another episode of The Divorce Chapter Podcast and it’s a bit of a heavyweight topic – getting over lies, manipulation, and deception. Lies can be a real killer, and my ex-husband was a champion at it. The lies unraveled gradually, a trickle truth that only surfaced when he was caught. It's a tale of lunches turning i…
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Send us a text First up, I wanted to share two practices that I forgot to mention last week… but that I think may be helpful if you are at the surviving rather than thriving phrase: Word for the year Win/Happy/Gratitude Jar Then I delve into a topic I've debated discussing—alcohol and its role in post-divorce life. While not divorce-specific, it wa…
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Send us a text Welcome back to The Divorce Chapter podcast and let's dive into the New Year, a time often associated with resolutions. Not the "New Year, New You" BS… because there's absolutely nothing wrong with us as we are. However, because this year started on a Monday, it kinda offered the perfect alignment of a new year, month, week, and day.…
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Send us a text Hey there, over here diving into Twixtmas and hoping you had a peaceful Christmas. This time between the holidays is magical for reflection, and I've always loved it. Back when I was married, those days when the kids and the ex were away, and I had the house to myself – it was almost better than Christmas! But then 2012 hit, and afte…
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Send us a text Last week, I went through the logistics of holiday planning post-divorce. However, dealing with a tricky ex and managing the emotional rollercoaster during the festive season is far from a dreamy cocktail.... definitely no Cosmo (or even a Snowball - who remembers them?!) So this week, I'm exploring a bit about the mechanics of our n…
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Send us a text In this episode, I talk about the challenges of navigating Christmas post-divorce and ways to get through it. The episode talks through the who, the when and the how of getting through Christmas after divorce and turning it into a happy one.... YOUR way. THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub FREE Guide to the 1…
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Send us a text In this latest episode of The Divorce Chapter Podcast, I delve into the fascinating realm of love languages. Yes, you read that right—love languages! While it might sound like a topic reserved for romantic relationships, I assure you there's so much more to it, especially when you're flying solo. Ever wondered how to navigate the wor…
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Send us a text In this week's episode, I share a bit of personal news - grandchild number five is on the way! It got me reflecting on the unique experience of grandparenting after divorce. Initially, I envisioned a different future with my ex, but life had other plans. I dive into the emotional landscape of divorce as it affects not only the couple…
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Send us a text In this episode, I reflect on the rocky path from saying "I do" to finally reaching the liberating stage of "I'm done." Working through the stages of divorce grief, even though it's not actually linear and we often find ourselves back and forth at each point. From shock and denial, that earthquake of realisation when the person we th…
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Send us a text With all that is going on in the world, plus Christmas looming and all the emotions it can stir, especially for those of us navigating the first one post-divorce, I thought let's chat about protecting our energy. When I say energy, I mean our vibe, whether it's high or low. Think of it as an energy bank – every interaction is a trans…
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Send us a text In the latest episode of the "Divorce Chapter Podcast," I dive into a crucial yet often overlooked subject: post-divorce depression. It's been a challenging period for me, and I wanted to share my personal experiences, insights, and strategies for coping with this difficult journey. The world is undoubtedly going through a lot right …
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Send us a text In this week's episode, I shared my experiences of moving into what my granddaughter cleverly dubbed "Peach Palace." As I settled in, I encountered a cascade of reflections, notably on the pursuit of perfection that has defined many facets of my life. The episode dives into the intricate ties between the quest for perfection and its …
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Send us a text This is a shorter episode as at the time of recording, I'm in the midst of moving. To where my granddaughter has named ‘Peach Palace’.... Which got me onto the subject of names and our identity. This episode focuses on changing our name when we get married…. and all that it takes to adapt to a new name. To then have to think about ch…
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Send us a text In this episode, I want to dive into the world of friendships after divorce. It's a topic that's close to my heart because my friends have been my rock during all the chaos. Your friends can be your biggest support squad through divorce, and I've been truly blessed with friends who've stood by my side. I tell you about some of them i…
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